" I still call him once in awhile, but it is now my phone. Our home phone has his voice, it is healthy and cheerful and feels so HERE
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VeeBee commented on Love2stage's blog post I called my husband today
"Dear Love2S, my beloved was also named Vern. I am reading your posts and shaking my head in affirmation. I lost my Dad in 2010, then my Vernon in 2011. My Mom and I are widowed together, but her memory is escaping daily. Vernon died suddenly even…"
VeeBee commented on Cristina's blog post Billie's Most Precious Sign to Me
"How wonderful and inspiring!"
VeeBee commented on AlanRRT's event So Cal Thanksgiving Dinner
"Hi Alan, I would so enjoy joining you and being Thankful together for the love we have had in our lives, and support one another in the rough times ahead. However, I will be otherwise engaged. Thank you for your generosity, quite remarkable."
Cristina left a comment for VeeBee
"VeeBee, you are so welcome. We're all struggling along here together, and it is so awesome to be able to read the wisdom of others to help us work toward our own healing and clarity. Best wishes to you for a gentle day. "
Cristina left a comment for VeeBee
"VeeBee, I'm glad that Closure video was helpful to you, too. My counselor advised me to do this, when someone starts to go on, about what I "should" do - she said, gently and slowly raise your pointer finger in a shushing…"
Cristina commented on VeeBee's blog post Getting Closer to Vernon's Deathaversary
"VeeBee....have you watched this yet? http://widowedvillage.org/forum/topics/the-illusion-of-closure
Your post makes me remember some of the points she makes in this very, very good talk. Only 15 minutes. You'll be glad…"
VeeBee commented on VeeBee's blog post First "AngelVersary Eve"
"Thank you and love and hugs back to my soul sisters and brothers"
Lisa ( Marielee) commented on VeeBee's blog post First "AngelVersary Eve"
"VeeBee- I to felt that the days leading up to the anniversary were worst then what the actual day turned out to be. Try to focus on your love and the good memories and treat yourself gently tomorrow. Tears may flow and so be it but you will be ok.…"
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First "AngelVersary Eve"
Posted on October 27, 2012 at 8:08pm 11 Comments 0 Likes
In spite of preparation for this anniversary, I can not seem to just turn off the awful moments of seeing my beloved expire. I just feel so helpless again and again to pull him back, it is my training, that's what I have been making a living at for decades. That is one aspect of this whole thing, the others you know inside out and that too. This of all places is the most insightful and safe eyot to share the tears and not have…
Continue Dancing
Posted on October 5, 2012 at 1:15am 1 Comment 1 Like
Vernon and I slow danced at home every time we heard a good groove, maybe jazz, maybe pop like Sade. He would offer his hand, I would accept the invitation and we would just be in heaven together on Earth. He was always 'game' for a dance.
Getting Closer to Vernon's Deathaversary
Posted on October 4, 2012 at 12:53am 4 Comments 2 Likes
Greetings Dear Bereavees, I have only been here two weeks, that is, as a member of WV thanks to a comment referring this site to my friend who just also lost her husband two and a half weeks ago. This event threw me into a different phase of my own loss which will be a year October 28. I see my friend through the eyes of a person on the other side of the rift of loss, I know she needs to talk about her beloved as much as I need to talk about mine because we agree that it makes our hearts feel… Continue
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- At 3:58pm on November 6, 2012,
Cristina said… VeeBee, you are so welcome. We're all struggling along here together, and it is so awesome to be able to read the wisdom of others to help us work toward our own healing and clarity. Best wishes to you for a gentle day.
- At 7:42pm on November 5, 2012, Cristina said…
VeeBee, I'm glad that Closure video was helpful to you, too. My counselor advised me to do this, when someone starts to go on, about what I "should" do - she said, gently and slowly raise your pointer finger in a shushing motion, to their lips, and say "Shhh...you don't know what you are talking about." In this culture, that might be said in a tone which is offensive, so I was thinking, maybe better would be to do the gesture, and say "Shhhh..you don't understand." Say it with a gentleness, not hostility, and perhaps that will be all you need to say. I haven't tried it yet, but it's a thought!
- At 8:56pm on October 27, 2012,
lisanrich said… Thinking of you on your first AngelVersary. Hope tomorrow will be peaceful for you. I lost my husband two months ago and I am so grateful for WV. This is a journey none of us signed up for. Many hugs to you!!
- At 8:39pm on September 24, 2012,
Joyce said… Welcome VeeBee: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It"
- At 10:31pm on September 22, 2012,
bj628(Bonnie) said… I'm sorry you had to join the club no one wants to... but happy you found your way here.
Chat is a great place for real time support and making friends. hope to meet you there.
- At 1:58am on September 22, 2012,
Dianne in Nevada said… 
I'm sorry for your loss, VeeBee, but glad you found us. There is caring support and friendship here. Here's a good place to start: Basic Site InfoJoin the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations. I look forward to getting to know you here.
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