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Patience (Diane) commented on Widow_erDad's blog post Good Riddance 2016
"WidowerDad- sending you good thoughts and wishes for you and your wife and family for the New Year! So sorry for all that you are going through...."
Dec 31, 2016
Widow_erDad posted a blog post

Good Riddance 2016

This has been a very challenging year. At 5 years out I thought things would be incrementally better. That's not the case. Fallout from IRS tax issues left by my late wife and then financial decisions I made to try and resolve the tax issues only made them worse. As I approach my 59th Birthday I wonder if I'll ever be financially secure again. My new wife of 3 1/2 years is struggling with health issues that have seriously impacted our quality of life. My now adult kids are doing ok but I am…See More
Dec 30, 2016
Widow_erDad commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post To all the Widows I Never Understood Before
"I wrote my own version of this post 5 1/2 years ago. Two months ago. Wow. This is a good place. It is a roller coaster for a while. It is hard to envision it getting better but over time it gets less hard. Holidays challenge me particularly now that…"
Nov 24, 2016
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Nov 24, 2016
AEDforever (Ali) commented on Widow_erDad's blog post Small things matter. The lessons we're not supposed to forget.
"Great Post WidowerDad!  Thanks for the reminder."
Aug 30, 2016
deaf widow commented on Widow_erDad's blog post Small things matter. The lessons we're not supposed to forget.
"What a wonderful reminder that there are battles that everyone is fighting "that NO one knows"!  We do "need each other in our worst moments"!  I needed to be reminded of this, too.  Super thanks!!!!! "
Aug 27, 2016
oceangirl commented on Widow_erDad's blog post Small things matter. The lessons we're not supposed to forget.
"Extremely well said. Thank you for this. "
Aug 27, 2016
Widow_erDad posted a blog post

Small things matter. The lessons we're not supposed to forget.

This is just a brief post composed on my phone. It's not specifically about widowhood. But it is about lessons learned from it.I was attending a business conference this week in an industry I've been in for over 4 decades. I have many friends that I've grown up with and I cherish those friendships. One colleague I've known has struggled with health issues the past few years and ultimately cost him his job and career. He has never married and has no children. He attends the conference to keep in…See More
Aug 27, 2016
Mary H commented on Widow_erDad's blog post The Surviving Parent
"That's a very nice story, and I can only hope that it turns out that way for me too in the end, but its not looking too good at the moment.  I'm at a year and a half right now and I lost a great man who did absolutely everything in…"
Aug 12, 2016
Callie2 left a comment for Widow_erDad
"Thank-you for the friend request, it's good to meet you."
Jul 3, 2016
Callie2 commented on Widow_erDad's blog post The Surviving Parent
"That is an uplifting story, thanks for sharing it with us. I'm sure you were glad he called (after the fear subsided) He sounds like a fine young man. Sorry your wife and his Mom aren't around to see him mature. There's no doubt about…"
Jul 2, 2016
Widow_erDad posted a blog post

The Surviving Parent

 My oldest son called me late last night. My heart always seems to stop and I have a hard time breathing when I get a call late at night from one of the kids. In this case it was 2am where he was in Daytona Beach. "Dad! This place, this whole experience is incredible. I don't even know how to describe it. My hotel room is on the beach, literally on the beach. I mean I could go swimming right now." Ok, I can breathe again. He works for NBC Sports on their NASCAR broadcasts. He's been doing it…See More
Jul 2, 2016
lizbeth4 commented on Widow_erDad's blog post Finding my way back
"I found your blog encouraging!  Thank you.  "
Jun 12, 2016
barbee commented on Widow_erDad's blog post Finding my way back
"My apologies if my comments were the ones that sounded like boasting or were insensitive. Many of my friends are widowed -- male and female -- and prefer to stay that way. Each of us who are widowed are deeply wounded. Each of us needs to find our…"
Jun 8, 2016
laurajay commented on Widow_erDad's blog post Finding my way back
"Widow_eredDad.  It was not your blog alone that caused me to reply.  I am four years out and thoroughly understand what you refer to as our hopeless despair.  For the last three yrs whenever I read  a post of a former widow or…"
Jun 8, 2016
Kaci commented on Widow_erDad's blog post Finding my way back
"I find your post very encouraging Widow_erDad. You don't come across as rubbing it in that you have a new relationship at all to me and no where do I see you suggesting that that is our only hope for happiness. Keep writing from the heart. I…"
Jun 8, 2016
Widow_erDad commented on Widow_erDad's blog post Finding my way back
"Laurajay, My apologies if the post came across as judgmental. The comment about not giving up hope had nothing to do with marriage, dating, or finding a partner. It was referring to the feeling of hopeless despair many of us have experienced. I…"
Jun 8, 2016
laurajay commented on Widow_erDad's blog post Finding my way back
"The caution you  can thoughtfully use to not sound - know it all - is to not "rub in" the idea that because  you  found  a new relationship/marriage  others must do the same to find meaning or fulfillment…"
Jun 8, 2016
barbee commented on Widow_erDad's blog post Finding my way back
"Thank both of you--Widow_erDad and Blue Snow for your comments. They have given me courage to write more here.  I have been away from Widowed Village for many months and have been hesitant to return. My husband died three years ago after a…"
Jun 6, 2016
Widow_erDad commented on Widow_erDad's blog post Finding my way back
"Thank you Blue Snow. I have a couple of reasons for returning here. I am a writer. There are things I write that I don't want to share on a public forum. Here I know I am among those who get it. The second is that I have a great desire to…"
Jun 5, 2016

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Good Riddance 2016

Posted on December 30, 2016 at 6:41pm 4 Comments

This has been a very challenging year. At 5 years out I thought things would be incrementally better. That's not the case. Fallout from IRS tax issues left by my late wife and then financial decisions I made to try and resolve the tax issues only made them worse. As I approach my 59th Birthday I wonder if I'll ever be financially secure again. My new wife of 3 1/2 years is struggling with health issues that have seriously impacted our quality of life. My now adult kids are doing ok but I am… Continue

Small things matter. The lessons we're not supposed to forget.

Posted on August 27, 2016 at 2:30pm 3 Comments

This is just a brief post composed on my phone. It's not specifically about widowhood. But it is about lessons learned from it.



I was attending a business conference this week in an industry I've been in for over 4 decades. I have many friends that I've grown up with and I cherish those friendships. One colleague I've known has struggled with health issues the past few years and ultimately cost him his job and career. He has never married and has no children. He attends the… Continue

The Surviving Parent

Posted on July 2, 2016 at 9:00am 2 Comments

 My oldest son called me late last night. My heart always seems to stop and I have a hard time breathing when I get a call late at night from one of the kids. In this case it was 2am where he was in Daytona Beach. "Dad! This place, this whole experience is incredible. I don't even know how to describe it. My hotel room is on the beach, literally on the beach. I mean I could go swimming right now." Ok, I can breathe again. He works for NBC Sports on their NASCAR broadcasts. He's been doing it…

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Finding my way back

Posted on June 4, 2016 at 10:19am 9 Comments

Wow, It's been a long time. Another lifetime for sure. I have been away for 3 years now and so much has changed. Although I've remained involved in the widowed community I had completely forgotten that I had a blog here. It's nice to see you friend. I hope you are well. I can't wait to catch up and see what I've missed.



Since I was last here I've had many changes.

The end of a relationship.

A new friendship & marriage.

Seeing my kids grow into happy… Continue

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At 1:17pm on July 3, 2016, Callie2 said…
Thank-you for the friend request, it's good to meet you.
At 6:01am on December 14, 2012, Lisa (lost) Lamb said…

I'm very sorry for your loss Widdow_erDad, but I'm glad you've found us. I hope you will find the same comfort and friendship here that I have. Welcome!

At 5:17pm on December 13, 2012, Joyce said…

Welcome Widdow_erdad: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".

 
 
 

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