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How long does "this" take?
Started this discussion. Last reply by Wanderer530 (Bernie) Jan 17, 2012. 21 Replies 0 Likes
Impossible question, I know. When my husband died, here are the answers I received: 1 year; 2 years; from my sister: 5 years; from my own collective experience in relationships: the half-life of the…Continue
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"You can't do your new job from your old chair."
And that is exactly what I’ve been struggling to do – live my new life while attempting to recreate my old one. Not possible and now I’ve found a quote that makes it easy for me to remember how fruitless it’s all been. It’s not often one is lucky enough to find words that perfectly sum up one’s struggles. And for the above quote, found recently in a collection of quotations from my wise, albeit… dead husband, I am grateful.
And that’s why I’m here, three years later, I’m still struggling to pick up the pieces…. my sweet husband took his life in the summer of 2008, two weeks shy of our little girl’s first birthday. In July no less, the height of summer, did I mention it was our daughter's birthday? I’d kill myself now, when the light fades at 4:30 in the afternoon, it’s cold and everyone is indoors, waiting out another winter. And for me, another winter, alone, without Matt. Poor AJ, boy do I despise my own self sorrow! But I can't help it!
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AJ
Welcome to this site. My husband took his own life. It has been 4 long and lonely yrs., but this site has helped me get through some of those lonely nites.
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Michele
Oh AJ. Thank you for welcoming here. I am so sorry for your loss. My husband also took his own life - almost 6 months ago. Losing your husband is terrible enough but to have them lost that way, is a special kind of torture, I know.
I hope that we can both find solace here. Your pictures are amazing and your little girl is beautiful. Thank you for sharing them.
Lisa
Welcome, AJ. I'm so sorry for the loss that brings you here, but so glad you've found us. WV has been a lifesaver for me since I lost my handsome hubby in June. I hope you'll find the same support and understanding that I have. Wishing you peace.
hey aj21. thanks for the comment. hope to chat with you soon.
Aj I'm so sorry for the loss that brought you here, but I'm very happy you found us. I was blessed with finding WV just 3 weeks after my husband passed, I do beleive I would still be at the beginging of my journey without this place. I know I still have a long road ahead but I've come much farther then I ever thought I could. I hope you will find some comfort and understanding now that your here with people that truly "Get It". welcome