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alonenow (Betsy)
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alonenow (Betsy) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"I am at 20 months and I agree with what others are saying. I can go for days without crying which is amazing to me. I've been seeing a therapist for about 18 months. It has been really helpful for me. I just recently cut back to seeing her…"
Jul 9
alonenow (Betsy) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"This group has been so quiet lately. I am wondering how folks are doing. I am managing and seriously thinking about retirement. Terry - how are you doing? Are you enjoying being retired? I hope the silence means that you are all doing OK."
Jul 8
alonenow (Betsy) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Terry, I've been reading your posts for a long time. I wish you all the best. I think going with your instincts is the best thing you can do. I will keep reading and hoping for lots of good things for you. Betsy"
Apr 8
alonenow (Betsy) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"I am so glad that this group is active again. It is so validating. I have been struggling for a long time because I just didn't care about anything. Still a problem at 18 months but sometimes there are little glimmers of interest and hope.…"
Mar 30
alonenow (Betsy) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"I just came across a transcript of the speech Sheryl Sandberg gave to the graduating class at Berkley. In it she talks about what she learned as a result of the sudden death of her husband. If you have the time, please read it or listen to it on…"
Jan 18
alonenow (Betsy) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Happy new year, Terry. I am one who has learned a great deal from you. Here's hoping 2017 is a bit easier for all of us."
Dec 29, 2016
alonenow (Betsy) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"I agree the pain of grieving is magnified by the stress of the campaign and election. Wishing us all a peaceful Thanksgiving in whatever way we can find it."
Nov 18, 2016
alonenow (Betsy) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"heartbroken, I am so sorry. I think you have every right to protect his privacy. Right now I think you need to focus on taking care of yourself. It's fine to deal with that request later when you have more emotional strength. If she pushes back…"
Nov 10, 2016
alonenow (Betsy) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Mary H., I know what you mean. Kathy died the Friday after Labor Day, today although the date is different. I can't believe it but I'm still here and doing well in some ways. I will never be the same and I will always ache from missing her…"
Sep 9, 2016
alonenow (Betsy) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Mary H, Good for you That's real progress. Pat yourself on the back. Betsy"
Sep 8, 2016
alonenow (Betsy) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Gaining Strength, Thank you for your support. Betsy"
Sep 6, 2016
alonenow (Betsy) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Seaneen9, Thank you so much. I am so grateful for your comments. It's so hard for me to see progress. Thanks again, Betsy"
Sep 6, 2016
alonenow (Betsy) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"I am just reaching the end of year one. Kathy died on September 18th last year. I've been anticipating the date but her surgeries started the Friday before Labor Day so it's all hitting me very hard. Kath had an aortic aneurysm that was…"
Sep 4, 2016
alonenow (Betsy) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"I am just reaching the end of year one. Kathy died on September 18th last year. I've been anticipating the date but her surgeries started the Friday before Labor Day so it's all hitting me very hard. Kath had an aortic aneurysm that was…"
Sep 4, 2016
alonenow (Betsy) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"I agree, your words are very helpful, SweetMelissa, lots to think about. Hugs to all of you."
Sep 3, 2016
alonenow (Betsy) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Good for you, Terry. I aspire to feel that way some day."
Aug 31, 2016

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Taking down the Christmas tree

Posted on January 9, 2016 at 2:22pm 1 Comment

Kathy and I bought our house in the spring of 1984 and hosted our first Christmas that next December. With just two exceptions, we hosted every Christmas family gathering ever since. Both of our families came and in our heyday we had more than 35 people. Over the last few years, nieces and nephews who started coming as babies, came with husbands, wives, significant others, and kids of their own.

We spent a lot of time preparing and decorating. Over time we’ve accumulated lots of…

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At 5:12pm on December 14, 2015, Brandy1977 said…
Hey alonenow,
Thank you I would love to have that extra support and I am happy to give you the support you need back. I wish Jan and I would of had more time together I feel cheated it's just not fair that we have to live without our partners. So how many kids do you have and their ages. Jan and I got together at the age of 29 so we had 9 years together I have birth to all 3 of our girls and they only thought of her and I as there mom's she wanted to adopt them this year right after we would of gotten married but of course you never think that you are going to be gone at the age of 38 we did not have WILL'S but for life insurance I was down as here beneficiary which I'm glad. We both never thought this could happen at a young age.lots of hugs your way
At 4:04pm on December 14, 2015, Brandy1977 said…

Hello alonenow, I am so sorry for your loss still so very new and raw. No not alot of us lost same sex and it's great when I meet someone just like me who lost there partner we did not get a chance to get married we were suppose to do that Nov 7th our anniversary she died June 16th of this year and still feel like I am in a dream like this can't be real. Hang in there if you need to chat or just want someone to listen I am here we will all make it through this together lots of hugs

At 4:17am on October 28, 2015, maggie said…

I am glad you have found your way to this site.I was sorry to hear of your loss-but you are among friends who can understand how you are feeling..My wife died four years ago and I found that this site helped me and that I was not alone. Please get in touch when you feel you are able.Regards maggie

At 4:52pm on October 27, 2015, Joyce said…

Welcome alonenow:  I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".

 
 
 

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