"Ah Stacy (((hugs))) I am in awe of you for gathering the strength and courage you needed to get you thru reading your statement. But also so frustrated for you to have this be continued again and again. Its so complicated when you…"
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Started this discussion. Last reply by kimkirt (KK) Sep 4, 2012. 1 Reply 0 Likes
Why is it when a person has been diagnosed with cancer people come out of the woodwork with unsolicited horror stories?I mean WTH? This person is fighting for her life and people are commenting on…Continue
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judy commented on bad ass widow's blog post Ok Babe, I Got The Message
"Amy,
I really love reading your stories and knowing Keith is always always with you. This made me remember early on - I was just 3 weeks out and went to hawaii to spread some of Justin's ashes. I was with very close friends on the…"
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Mariposa commented on bad ass widow's blog post Ok Babe, I Got The Message
"Wow! It is amazing the signs we get, and you story is amazing. I'm sorry for all the hassle you went through."
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"Sometimes this is the only place where I have heard "Im sorry" and I appreciate it. It may just seem like any old words, but to me, I have felt the sincerity of the people saying it. And I will take that any day over the other…"
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Back To Being The Worst Widow Ever
Posted on April 28, 2013 at 3:33pm 7 Comments 0 Likes
I have a confession.
I AM THE WORST WIDOW EVER !!
I have a tendency to forget things and dates that are important. My counselor once told me its a self-defense mechanism. I tend to bury things that are hurtful to me. I dont like being sad or angry and I guess I believe that by burying these things way down deep they cant hurt me anymore. No wonder she diagnosed me with PTSD. I deal with drama and trauma very well while it is happening, but then break down later (sometimes…
Continue I Just Went In For Downspouts
Posted on April 10, 2013 at 10:45pm 7 Comments 6 Likes
I need new downspouts.
Its raining, A lot.
Water is seeping into my basement. A lot.
Being the confident (ha ha), self sufficient (LOL) stubborn (Ok, that is true) I set off to the local Menards to find me some new downspouts. Ones that would fold up and out of the way when it wasnt raining. Cant have the ones that just lay on the ground, because my daughters dog thinks that they resemble sticks and will stop at nothing to yank them off and bury them.
So into…
Continue Where Did My Voice Go?
Posted on February 10, 2013 at 1:47am 9 Comments 2 Likes
Where did my voice go?
Really, where did my voice go?
One of the lessons of being a widow is learning how to be alone. I have learned many ways of coping and living without my husband but I never imagined that I would start losing my voice. Simply because I dont use it anywhere near as much as I used to. I probably speak less then 40 words from 5:00 PM when I get home from work and 6:45 AM when I start work again. And most of those words are one to five word commands to…
Continue Ok Babe, I Got The Message
Posted on January 13, 2013 at 12:40am 11 Comments 4 Likes
Keith has a way of sending me signs. They are not romantic or fantastic rainbow type of signs. They are simply signs that makes me know he is still around.
The last couple of months have been hard and I have been finding myself backing away once again from everything. From here, from friends, from family. I have seemed to have lost my ability to find joy, positivity, and worst of all my snarkiness has taken a hit. Even blue suckers have not been able to drag me out of this…
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- At 3:23pm on June 13, 2013,
Mariposa said… Thank you for liking my poem and blog. ~Mariposa
- At 9:07am on May 25, 2013,
Paula said… Thank you , I admit it did, I was getting ready to accept that people don't want to hear from someone who has been out as long as me. It was hard work and it can all fall about, but I did do it for a while.
- At 10:40am on June 17, 2012,
Dianne in Nevada said… Thinking of you today, Amy ♥
- At 8:18pm on May 14, 2012,
jimswife33 (Michelle) said… Happy Birthday Amy! I hope you have a wonderful day.
Michelle
- At 12:51am on May 14, 2012, Dianne in Nevada said…
Hope you have a really wonderful day.
Happy Birthday, Amy!
Dianne
- At 5:01pm on March 21, 2012,
hendrixx2 said… Hi Amy, thanx for your comments, I am only able to do anything these days in part because of you and the others who helped me when I was at wit's end. Wishing Peace and Healing for you....
- At 3:02pm on February 12, 2012,
t2 said… thank you, amy.
- At 5:18pm on February 11, 2012, hendrixx2 said…
hi baw, thanx for friending...
- At 2:01pm on February 3, 2012,
Tulsa Chris said… BAW, I adore this post and hope that one day I can feel that strong. Susan, my life partner just died on 12/29, followed a month later by our freind and Susan's persoanl trainer, Kimbra. Kimbra was an important part of our home since she helped Susan battle her MS. The loss of my Susan, and Kimbra's support are almost more than I can bear. But I will prevail.
- At 4:24pm on January 31, 2012,
Susan L said… Thank you for adding me as a friend. Today has been better than I expected. I got a surprise visit from my son and his wife. They drove 2 1/2 hours to come in to take me to lunch. It made my day! I hope you're doing well. Hugs.
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