This site is run by widowed people, for widowed people

Widowed Village connects peers with each other for friendship and sharing. The moderators, administrators, and others involved in running this site are not professionals.

Please don't interpret anything you read here as medical, legal, or otherwise expert advice. Don't disregard any expert's advice or take any action as a result of what you read here.

We're friends, not doctors, financial or legal professionals, and we're not "grief experts." But we are here, and we've been "there."

bad ass widow
  • Female
  • Cary, IL
  • United States
Share on Facebook Share

Bad ass widow's Friends

  • john
  • GB Julie
  • Nesier
  • pottergirl
  • Karen (funnybne)
  • Susan D (Profe D)
  • billmd
  • MrsD
  • lisanrich
  • recent loss(Ron)>>Recently Found
  • Silvina1
  • mamatrees
  • Angie aka Woody's Girl
  • Youngatheart
  • bj628(Bonnie)

bad ass widow's Discussions


Started this discussion. Last reply by kimkirt (KK) Sep 4, 2012. 1 Reply

Why is it when a person has been diagnosed with cancer people come out of the woodwork with unsolicited horror stories?I mean WTH?  This person is fighting for her life and people are commenting on…Continue


bad ass widow's Page

Profile Information

bad ass widow's Photos

  • Add Photos
  • View All

Bad ass widow's Blog

Back To Being The Worst Widow Ever

Posted on April 28, 2013 at 11:33am 7 Comments

I have a confession.


I have a tendency to forget things and dates that are important.  My counselor once told me its a self-defense mechanism.  I tend to bury things that are hurtful to me.  I dont like being sad or angry and I guess I believe that by burying these things way down deep they cant hurt me anymore.  No wonder she diagnosed me with PTSD.  I deal with drama and trauma very well while it is happening, but then break down later (sometimes…


I Just Went In For Downspouts

Posted on April 10, 2013 at 6:45pm 7 Comments

I need new downspouts. 

Its raining, A lot.

Water is seeping into my basement.  A lot.

Being the confident (ha ha), self sufficient (LOL) stubborn (Ok, that is true) I set off to the local Menards to find me some new downspouts.  Ones that would fold up and out of the way when it wasnt raining.  Cant have the ones that just lay on the ground, because my daughters dog thinks that they resemble sticks and will stop at nothing to yank them off and bury them.

So into…


Where Did My Voice Go?

Posted on February 9, 2013 at 9:47pm 7 Comments

Where did my voice go? 

Really, where did my voice go?

One of the lessons of being a widow is learning how to be alone.  I have learned many ways of coping and living without my husband but I never imagined that I would start losing my voice.  Simply because I dont use it anywhere near as much as I used to.  I probably speak less then 40 words from 5:00 PM when I get home from work and 6:45 AM when I start work again.  And most of those words are one to five word commands to…


Ok Babe, I Got The Message

Posted on January 12, 2013 at 8:40pm 11 Comments

Keith has a way of sending me signs.  They are not romantic or fantastic rainbow type of signs.  They are simply signs that makes me know he is still around.

  The last couple of months have been hard and I have been finding myself backing away once again from everything.  From here, from friends, from family.  I have seemed to have lost my ability to find joy, positivity, and worst of all my snarkiness has taken a hit.  Even blue suckers have not been able to drag me out of this…


Comment Wall (24 comments)

You need to be a member of Widowed Village to add comments!

Join Widowed Village

At 8:24pm on June 26, 2013, Angie aka Woody's Girl said…
Hi Amy - just wanted to let you know you helped inspire me to write a song. Well actually a ditty. When we first met I told you I liked your name and you told me 'we're all badasses, I just took the name.' Haha! It goes like this.....
God must think I'm a badass if what I read is true
He only gives the strongest ones
The hardest things to do.
We'll make it through, both me and you
Believe it for it's true
Cuz God thinks I'm a badass
And He thinks that you're one too.
Sometimes I feel crazy, sometimes I feel blue
Sometimes I get angry
What the hell am I supposed to do?
What the hell am I supposed to do??
(repeat verse at top)
That's all there is to it but I'm going to play it in San Diego at Camp Widow West and dedicate it to you and all the other bad ass widows out there. Take care!!
At 11:23am on June 13, 2013, Mariposa said…

Thank you for liking my poem and blog. ~Mariposa

At 5:07am on May 25, 2013, Paula said…

Thank you , I admit it did, I was getting ready to accept that people don't want to hear from someone who has been out as long as me. It was hard work and it can all fall about, but I did do it for a while.

At 6:40am on June 17, 2012, Dianne in Nevada said…

Thinking of you today, Amy ♥

At 4:18pm on May 14, 2012, jimswife33 (Michelle) said…

Happy Birthday Amy!  I hope you have a wonderful day.


At 8:51pm on May 13, 2012, Dianne in Nevada said…

Hope you have a really wonderful day.

Happy Birthday, Amy!


At 1:01pm on March 21, 2012, hendrixx2 said…

Hi Amy, thanx for your comments, I am only able to do anything these days in part because of you and the others who helped me when I was at wit's end.  Wishing Peace and Healing for you....

At 11:02am on February 12, 2012, t2 said…

thank you, amy.

At 1:18pm on February 11, 2012, hendrixx2 said…

hi baw, thanx for friending...

At 10:01am on February 3, 2012, Tulsa Chris said…

BAW, I adore this post and hope that one day I can feel that strong.  Susan, my life partner just died on 12/29, followed a month later by our freind and Susan's persoanl trainer, Kimbra. Kimbra was an important part of our home since she helped Susan battle her MS.  The loss of my Susan, and Kimbra's support are almost more than I can bear.   But I will prevail. 


© 2020   Created by Soaring Spirits.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service