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Wakes and Reunions

Posted on January 20, 2014 at 4:09am 2 Comments

Back when I worked at "Wrinkle City" (A/K/A the retirement community), our security manager had a skewed opinion about the health of the residents: if they didn't die around the New Year, they would be good until summer. And statistics say his opinion is correct-January IS the month when most people die-followed by December. Which is probably why my social calendar has been filled recently with more wakes than parties. These wakes are stressing me out, and it has nothing to do with who is in…


I Am Woman, Hear Me Roar

Posted on January 11, 2014 at 8:24am 2 Comments

In the past few weeks, I have:

Spoken with authority to a tax attorney and realtor to help someone out

Cooked a gourmet dinner for 25 people

Pushed a woman's car out of a busy intersection

Bought a snow blower after negotiating the price

Celebrated New Year's Eve in Manhattan by myself

Chastised a drunk on a train

Changed my own windshield wiper blades

Yeah, I know...

But after months of what I call my "Emotional Constipation" period, I…


Reliving In Our Eloquence Another "Auld Lang Syne"

Posted on January 11, 2014 at 8:20am 0 Comments

New Years Eve's my second New Years Eve since Wingman died and I did something crazy. I went to New York City to see the ball drop in Times Square.

Probably not one of my more sane ideas. Still, I also have this other insane idea that when I die, instead if a dash between my birth and death year on my tombstone, I want there to be dotted lines and a few question marks to indicate the "WHAT WAS SHE THINKING???" moments. Like this one. It was the coldest New Year's Eve in…


I'll Be Home For Christmas

Posted on January 11, 2014 at 8:19am 0 Comments

So the hoopla of Christmas is more or less over. As usual, it took a lot less time to open all the gifts than it took to buy and wrap them. And by the look of what they gave me, I would say that my family know me quite well: they were caffeine related from son #3 and wine related from #2. I got to speak through Skype with son #1 a couple of times this week. I saw granddaughter #1 from across the globe and held #2...even better gifts.

This wasn't my first Christmas without Wingman, but…


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At 5:40pm on January 23, 2014, my roses said…

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Read your blog re wakes etc.  You indicated that there is research on people dying  more often in January  and secondly in December  of the year. Do you have any link, or researchers names for this?  I would like to see the reasons that this occurs. Could be they hang in there until Christmas and then have nothing else to look forward to.


At 3:46am on August 20, 2013, Patience said…

Love your words, Barbara! Those nuns were scary, weren't they?

At 6:04am on July 20, 2013, judy said…

Dear Barb,

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.


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