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Who's going to Camp in August??

Started this discussion. Last reply by Trifectagirl Aug 9, 2012. 172 Replies

I had such an amazing experience at Camp East, I HAVE to do it again!! If you're going, are you going early? Staying late? Traveling with anyone?Continue

Tags: Camp Widow 2012, Camp Widow West, Camp Widow

Who are you - when you are alone??

Started this discussion. Last reply by Niki Jan 14, 2012. 19 Replies

My shrink told me today that although she understands it is not the reality I want, the reality IS that my handsome hubby is no longer with me. I am alone. So, she says, I need to examine who I am…Continue


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4 years

Posted on June 4, 2015 at 7:53pm 3 Comments

If you had told me 4 years ago that someday I would be looking back and saying, "'s been 4 can it be 4 years?" I would have told you that you were insane. Because 4 years ago, my world was a bleak existence that all I wanted was out of, and fast, please. 

It's been 4 years. Rather, in 24 days, it will have been 4 years. (Not that I'm counting....stupid countdown clock.) 

4 years since I heard his voice, saw his smile and his handsome face, felt myself…


Skipping Christmas

Posted on December 6, 2014 at 6:11am 1 Comment

Randy doesn't want to go cut down our traditional Christmas tree this year. He says it is not the same anymore....and of course, it isn't. I'm sad that he doesn't want to do it.... but I'm not. I don't feel like doing it either. I don't know if I am going to force the issue or just let it go. I feel like a heel that the house wasn't decorated the day after Thanksgiving like it always used to be but I just don't want to do it!!! Don't have the money this year to run away to the beach so maybe…


3 + 3 = crazy widow

Posted on September 28, 2014 at 6:23pm 0 Comments

Three years and three months. Today it has been three years and three months since we lost Rod. Sometimes, now, over three years later, the 28th comes and goes without my giving it too much thought. Sometimes on the 28th I wake up, acknowledge it, and get on with my day. Today happens to be my middle boy's birthday and I'm sad that Rod isn't here to tell him happy birthday, that instead I am making this ridiculous connection between the birthday and the death day which wasn't even in…


If you were with me

Posted on September 28, 2014 at 5:49pm 0 Comments

I wonder

if you were with me 

standing in the salt spray 

on the beach where we were wed....

one year after you died. 

I wonder

if you were with me 

crying over the caskets 

of my great aunt and uncle, 

gone one year apart, 

two and three years after you died. 

I wonder

if you were with me 

watching Randy's games 

watching him sleep when he was sick 

watching him grow and grow and…


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Thank you for your warm welcome. I'm hoping I will find some comfort here among all these wonderful people who get what I'm going through...
At 12:52pm on May 31, 2016, free said…

THX for the welcome. I am feeling very lonely and sad today as I have nothing fun to do today. Yesterday went away with friends for bird watching, lunch, & new museum. Tomorrow full day @Zumba, lunch out, movie @libray and attend grief grp.If I stay home I tend to feel extremely lonely & sad, I am @13mos since Malcolm's passing. I don't think I can connect with other widowers as I live in a rural area of Arizona. Perhaps emailing will help.  THX  FRIEDA

At 10:42am on May 30, 2016, Piglet1976 said…
Thank you! I hope to find plenty of information on this sight. I couldn't wait to get the approval.
At 2:45pm on May 10, 2016, Carlita said…
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At 8:47pm on May 9, 2016, Dawnmc24 said…

Thank you for the welcome! I'm in a couple of other widowed groups, and thought this might be a good place to hopefully meet other local widows too. Just looking for support and am interested to see what I find here.

At 8:04am on April 11, 2016, Sunnyone said…

Thank you for the welcome! Baby steps but looking forward to connecting with others in the same boat. I'm exploring the site now getting a feel for how this works. Not looking for tears but for getting and giving support with people who know what it's like. Together we can do this.

At 4:09pm on April 10, 2016, Sonny said…
Thank you, I've got to learn how to converse on here since I have just now joined. It took me awhile to come on here but now that I have I look forward to meeting new people. So many people with such sad losses and unable to cope. I hope and believe all things will work to the betterment of each of if we will just believe God does not make any mistakes. Hope you are doing well.Sonny
At 9:44pm on February 27, 2016, BREEZY said…

Thank You for reaching out it is apperciated..  really not sure where to start or say from here.  i've never really been one to reach out to unknown people just  always my husband is who I always confided in.  and now he is no longer with me.   my sisters do what they can but they just truely have a hard time identifying with it cause they have not been through it.. I feel suffocated and dazed.  my husband passed april 30 2015 one month and one day before our 25th wedding anniversary, which we where excited about.


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