"Happy birthday Mike! Kathy sending warm thoughts and hugs to you and Renee today. I hope there are memories to give you comfort today. (((((Hugs)))))"
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janet commented on dvlkitten (Kathy S.)'s event Mike's 50th Birthday
"Thinking of you and Renee today. I hope you have a soft day today. Be gentle with yourself.
Hugs to you both."
Dianne in Nevada commented on dvlkitten (Kathy S.)'s event Mike's 50th Birthday
"Thinking of you and your daughter today, Kathy."
dvlkitten (Kathy S.) commented on AlanRRT's event So Cal Thanksgiving Dinner
"Thanks, Alan. Renee and I will be at my parents' with my family that day. Wishing you a very happy Thanksgiving. I hope that YOU will not be alone. <3"
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Mike's 50th Birthday at Across the Country
November 23, 2012 all day
Facebook RSVP pageFriday, November 23, 2012, would have been my husband's 50th birthday had he not passed away on July 3, 2012. I am asking everyone who is willing to help my daughter Renee and I through this day to light a candle in memory of the birth of my husband.We lost Mike when he died on an airplane as we were flying home from our family vacation in Florida. Our 11-year-old daughter…See More
lisanrich left a comment for dvlkitten (Kathy S.)
"Hi Kathy,
I am new to this site and still learning how to maneuver my way around. I read some of your posts and I can relate to you in many ways. My husband got pneumonia also, hospitalized for almost a month. Came home and less…"
Valerie commented on dvlkitten (Kathy S.)'s blog post One Day Closer
"I understand this too. I remember sitting in an office at the bank, handing over the cheque and having this huge sinking pit in my stomach. So much anxiety. So much guilt. For some reason I thought that this man (at the bank) must think I'm an…"
AlanRRT commented on dvlkitten (Kathy S.)'s blog post One Day Closer
"Kathy,
I understand what you're feeling. I too felt so bad getting the life insurance. i was actually having a good day until the mail came. My Elaine for a big pile of money? Not a fair trade. Yes, we need it in…"
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One Day Closer
Friday, I had gone into total panic, broken-hearted mode when I got home to find the life insurance checks in the mail. That was a very surreal moment. Mike and I had joked about the life insurance many times such as when he was doing something not real safe joking about how I was going to make it rich, or as he went through his illnesses and feared his days were numbered, he would say how he was worth more to us dead than alive because of the life insurance.I can tell you, $100,000 or…See More
AEDforever (Ali) commented on dvlkitten (Kathy S.)'s blog post Moving Forward
"Yes, Kathy, we try to move "forward"...we don't, don't don't like the phrase "moving on". Thanks for posting. the flower is beautiful too."
hendrixx2 commented on dvlkitten (Kathy S.)'s blog post Moving Forward
"Hi Kathy,
Totally agree with all you say...we move on, with the memory of the events of our lives with our partners as integral parts of ourselves in the different life....thank you for posting your perspective...."
Marsha liked dvlkitten (Kathy S.)'s blog post This Journey
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One Day Closer
Posted on September 16, 2012 at 3:02pm 2 Comments 2 Likes
Friday, I had gone into total panic, broken-hearted mode when I got home to find the life insurance checks in the mail. That was a very surreal moment. Mike and I had joked about the life insurance many times such as when he was doing something not real safe joking about how I was going to make it rich, or as he went through his illnesses and feared his days were numbered, he would say how he was worth more to us dead than alive because of the life insurance.
I can tell you,…
Continue Moving Forward
Posted on September 14, 2012 at 10:30am 7 Comments 0 Likes
Read this on Facebook this morning and thought it was a good one to share. I like "moving forward" much better than "moving on!!!"
Your loved one is always a part of you. Therefore, when you 'move forward' (as opposed to move on), you take them with you. They are never more than a heartbeat away. They infuse your every breath with their love and their influence in your life. Thus, when you reengage with life bit by bit, they are forever with you.…
Continue This Journey
Posted on September 13, 2012 at 5:43pm 5 Comments 3 Likes
I have always been one to think about why we are here and what our purpose is in life. I was not raised in a home with organized religion. My mother was Roman Catholic. My dad was Lutheran. They raised me to love God and to believe and love that Jesus was the only son of God. I was told to be a good person and to treat others as I would have them treat me. So my thinking is at times very childlike when it comes to perceptions on this journey we call "Life."
I believe…
Continue 12 Days of Intubation
Posted on September 12, 2012 at 2:08pm 3 Comments 3 Likes
Mike had pneumonia and pleural effusion in mid-November of 2011. He was hospitalized for almost a month. On December 2, he crashed and went into full respiratory failure. He was intubated and in ICU for 12 days. When he came to and was moved to the Critical Care Unit, he recorded this recording of what he could remember while he was out. It is very emotional, and I believe this experience is why when Mike stopped breathing on the plane he was as calm as he was. In a way, it gives me…
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- At 1:12am on September 21, 2012,
lisanrich said… Hi Kathy,
I am new to this site and still learning how to maneuver my way around. I read some of your posts and I can relate to you in many ways. My husband got pneumonia also, hospitalized for almost a month. Came home and less than 48hrs later, I had to call the ambulance again because he couldn't breathe. He spent 18 days in ICU before he passed. They Finally found that he had fibrosis and he was in his final stage of a disease with no cure but a lung transplant. He was also intubated but then they had to put in a trach. The last time I heard my husband speak was the morning I called 911 and he told me to please not let him die. He could hardly breathe and in such a state of panic. I am so happy that your hubby told his story. I wanted to hear Richard's voice so bad!! But, he was so sick and most of the time they kept him sedated so he didn't have to suffer.
But, now I'm panicking!! I hate this feeling of being alone. I have friends and family but without my husband I'm so alone.
Thank you so much for sharing your stories. God Bless you and your family.
- At 10:39pm on September 11, 2012,
Joyce said… Welcome dvlkitten: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
- At 2:27pm on September 9, 2012,
Cristina said… It really is, isn't it? Best wishes for your day. <3 back atcha.
- At 11:03am on September 6, 2012,
LaurieR said… Hello Kathy. I am so sorry for your loss. I never really know what to say but welcome to this site. It is so very hard for people who have not lost their significant other to understand what your going through. People here all have lost their love and understand. My husband adored Orlando we have went many times. It must have been so terrible for you and your daughter to go from having a wonderful time to such a tragedy. If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me. I will do my best to help you. I will send you a friend request, if you wish you can accept.
- At 7:51pm on September 5, 2012,
Emy said… I am so sorry for your loss. Please come here and let it out, vent, cry, we are here for you.
- At 6:44pm on September 5, 2012,
wannabmartha said… So sorry for the reason you’re here but glad that you’ve joined us. You’ll find insight, understanding and support here at Widowed Village. We’re traveling the same journey together some further down the road than others. Join a group when you’re ready to get better connected. Participate in a forum and/or chat anytime. If you have questions, feel free to ask. There is always someone around willing to help.
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