"Hi Cee and Leslie B. -
I feel exactly what you two feel. Stuck in the middle. I was hoping to find a male friend to do things with. A widower that is lonesome too, but no luck. I have limitations…"
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ebwilkie commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"Hi Marian - I welcome you to our site, a site that no one wants to belong to but one that is a necessary. I hope you will enjoy the company here. We have been through all what you experience so please ask us about it and let us try to…"
ebwilkie commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"Hi Kittus - I still fight that weekend crying spree. It is almost two years since I lost my husband after 45 years of marriage. The weekends are THE worst. Everyone seems to have somewhere to go except us. What makes me feel…"
ebwilkie replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Hi Cindy, I was just reading your post and I must have missed something. I was wondering what kind of collection your husband had. I sold our fifth wheel camper and Brian's Ram diesel truck that he used and that we pulled the…"
ebwilkie commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"Hi Feelinglonely - I'm terribly sorry for all the losses that you have experienced. I don't know if I could live through that. You must be a strong woman. Your right, loosing a spouse isn't like anything else.…"
ebwilkie commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"Hi Connie - Your description of your life when your husband was diagnosed is perfect. At least it is to me. My husband died of Stage IV PC too. We fought it for a year and a half and your description of a tsunami is perfect.…"
ebwilkie commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"Hi Huckleberry,
You'll survive this, that's for sure; but don't be in a big hurry for the grief to be over. It can, but normally it very individual - it can last 4 or 5 years, even the rest of your life, although…"
ebwilkie commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2011
"Hi Puddy - I am almost at the start of the third year, and I am happy to get out of the second year. It really sucks! Reality really sets in the second year and we are left to cope with it. I haven't heard anything bad about…"
ebwilkie commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"Hi Leillymarlene - I am so sorry that your fiance died. I hope you will allow yourself enough time to grieve. People on this site understand your grief because we have all been through it and want to help you. My husband was 210…"
ebwilkie commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"My experience exactly, feelinglonely. My husband had pancreatic cancer. I think it depends on what cancer you have.
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ebwilkie commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"It all depends what kind of cancer you have and if chemo is effective on that kind of cancer. My husband had pancreatic cancer and the chemo just made him weaker and sick. If I had that kind of cancer I would never accept chemo. I…"
ebwilkie replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Gordy's widow - about seeing your husband's name in the mail - thinking it's dumb. I don't think so. I do the same thing. It somehow confirms that he was here and he lived here - confirms that he once was the…"
ebwilkie commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2011
"But I can't find your page to share your writings. Is that OK?"
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- At 8:06pm on March 13, 2013,
Paula said… for sure, that would be good, Im glad it speaks to you!!!
- At 4:40pm on December 2, 2012,
mem5711 (Denise) said… Ebwilkie....sorry it took so long. I keep very busy with my husband's businesses, kids and grandbabies...and my sisters. I think if I didn't have their support it would be so much more difficult. My youngest son will be buying a new home next year and brought up the subject of me moving in with him and his family. I'd have my own in-law apartment...thinking very seriously about this. His wife, whom I just love like my own daughter, is the one that suggested it (we spend alot of time together). Please email me if you want to talk privately @denver5711@gmail.com....love to hear from you:))
- At 8:57pm on October 13, 2012,
AEDforever (Ali) said… EB, got your note. My pleasure to leave a message for you. I know it was a hard day, but you made it through. We all just keep doing the best we can. Keep breathing. (hugs)
- At 7:44pm on August 13, 2012,
CharliesGirl said… So now we are officially "friends". I've considered you a good friend for quilte a while now.
Julie
- At 7:44am on July 12, 2012,
camry said… Hi Elaine....I lost my husband to PC 11 months after diagnosis. It's still surreal for me to even type that sentence. He was only 48. He was a healthy, fit gym teacher and coach who loved his life and his family. I still haven't processed it all. It's so hard to get through each day. Some days are better than others. I was so happy and secure Before and now everything is broken. Thanks for reaching out to me.
Camry
- At 5:47pm on June 26, 2012, CharliesGirl said…
Elaine:
I joined this site yesterday, but I've been on 2012 group. I ran out of everythingelse to look at today (bad day, spending hours on the computer) so I started looking at 2011 and there you were. I'm CharliesGirl on here. Julie
- At 10:09pm on June 21, 2012,
Kate said… - Hi, I got an email notice with the message you sent about our photos but don't know how to find it on my page to respond? So will try it this way.
Thank you, I LOVE our pictures too, I treasure having them! Yes, they were taken by a professional photographer friend of mine who just let us "be us" no posing for the camera, just us in love. They were taken May 17, 2011 3 very short months before Jeff passed away from GBM (brain cancer) Jeff never looked sick, we had no idea when doing this photo session that he would be gone so soon.
- At 10:39pm on June 19, 2012,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… Welcome to our community.... I hope we can keep you company on your journey ahead. Please look around a bit and read this basic introduction to the site. You can find more information about how the community works under "Help!" in the navigation bar, and we'll send you a few newsletters with tips and ideas in the coming weeks. If you need a little more help, go to the Home page and look in the right hand column to see the link to a "Help Desk" form.
We all use the site differently, but we hope you feel comfortable sharing among us in the coming days, weeks, and months.
Big hug!
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- At 12:10am on June 17, 2012,
Joyce said… Welcome ebwilkie: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I know you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
- At 2:46pm on June 15, 2012,
Suz said… Sorry, Elaine, I missed where you had put your names. I see you are from Canada. Us Minnesotans kind of think we are Canadians. Jud and I loved every trip to Canada. We used to have friends in Toronto and, just last summer, went to Quebec City and Montreal (during the little space that he felt ok). We had a great time. I am going to have to get out the globe and find out exactly where you are.
Suz
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