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ebwilkie
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  • South Woodslee, Ontario
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ebwilkie commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-Term Illness
"I haven't been active in this group for a long time.  That must mean that I'm getting over the loss. No, I cry everyday for the one I loved and lost.  I just been busy with myself.  You see, I was diagnosed with ALS two…"
Aug 10, 2016
ebwilkie replied to Doug02122014's discussion What to do with spouses personal effects and when?
"They say that the second year is the hardest.  I found that to be true.  You're just about done the second year.  It will get easier in time.  You find you're thinking about something else?  You'll find it…"
Feb 1, 2016
ebwilkie replied to Doug02122014's discussion What to do with spouses personal effects and when?
"KayL - You CAN ask God to send your love to him.  I do it all the time.  Develop a personal relationship with God.  You can tell Him anything.  I know the pain you talk about.  It will be 5 years in June that I'm a…"
Feb 1, 2016
ebwilkie commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"I like that comment John.  That's how grief is too me."
Sep 27, 2015
ebwilkie replied to Doug02122014's discussion What to do with spouses personal effects and when?
"My sister lost her husband in they're car.  He had a heart attack while driving and died on the side of the street.  Fortunately, it was in the city and she was able to slow the car down and pull it off to the side of the street.…"
Aug 9, 2015
ebwilkie replied to Doug02122014's discussion What to do with spouses personal effects and when?
"My sister lost her husband in their car.  He had a heart attack and died - and he was driving!  Fortunately, it was in town so she brought the car to a stop.  She couldn't drive that car again.  He had died behind the wheel.…"
Aug 9, 2015
ebwilkie liked Doug02122014's discussion What to do with spouses personal effects and when?
Aug 9, 2015
ebwilkie replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"So Sad - I know what that's like - you feel sick and you feel like you're still attractive but you don't want him.  I think Callie2 said it best.  Whatever you do, DON"T meet him if he's drunk.  Tell him, in…"
Aug 3, 2015
ebwilkie commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Karasue - did your husband suffer a lot?  Was he sick for a long time?  My husband was sick for a year before he was diagnosed.  He was treated for colitis.  Of course, nothing worked against the diahrrea.  He finally went…"
Jul 27, 2015
ebwilkie commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Hello Karasue and welcome - I'm on here every once-in-a-while but I read all the postings all the time.  What age are you ?  I'm 66, in November I'll be 67.  I know that some people say that they found love again, but…"
Jul 27, 2015
ebwilkie commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"To all those who have commented on my situation - thank you for your kind words and you sympathy.  I have already contacted the ALS Society here in Ontario, Canada.  I think they help a lot.  My kids just ignore the fact that I may…"
Jul 19, 2015
ebwilkie commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Anne - My husband died of PC too - 4 yrs. ago.  I had the very same ideas as you had.  In January, I was diagnosed with ALS.  I have mixed feelings about it.  In a way, that's what I wanted so I can be with my husband.…"
Jul 17, 2015
ebwilkie commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"To all - this is sent as a pick-me-up for all of you.  I was posting all the time when my husband dierd.  Lately, I have something else to do besides posting.  I'm a great grandmother!  Ella Marie was born May 22, 2015 to my…"
Jul 17, 2015
ebwilkie commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"I think you get it out, Slick.  If they don't like you for doing it - who cares?  You'll feel better if you get it out."
Jul 9, 2015
ebwilkie replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"I wish my husband left me - I would be mad and I wouldn't miss him so much."
Apr 25, 2015
ebwilkie commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or earlier
"Its people like you, HeartsForever, that make it special.   We can use nice people that talk like you.  The others benefit from that, and you benefit from posting.  We can use postings like yours.    "
Apr 3, 2015

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At 10:50am on September 22, 2013, Mariposa said…

Hi ebwilkie! Sorry for your loss. It is too bad that you do understand exactly what I was talking about. Wishing you peace, comfort, healing and strength.

~Mariposa

At 4:06pm on March 13, 2013, Paula said…

for sure,  that would be good, Im glad it speaks to you!!!

At 4:57pm on October 13, 2012, AEDforever (Ali) said…

EB, got your note.  My pleasure to leave a message for you.  I know it was a hard day, but you made it through.  We all just keep doing the best we can.  Keep breathing.  (hugs)

At 3:44pm on August 13, 2012, CharliesGirl said…

So now we are officially "friends". I've considered you a good friend for quilte a while now.

 

Julie

At 3:44am on July 12, 2012, camry said…

Hi Elaine....I lost my husband to PC 11 months after diagnosis. It's still surreal for me to even type that sentence. He was only 48. He was a healthy, fit gym teacher and coach who loved his life and his family. I still haven't processed it all. It's so hard to get through each day. Some days are  better than others. I was so happy and secure Before and now everything is broken. Thanks for reaching out to me.

Camry

At 1:47pm on June 26, 2012, CharliesGirl said…

Elaine:

I joined this site yesterday, but I've been on 2012 group. I ran out of everythingelse to look at today (bad day, spending hours on the computer) so I started looking at 2011 and there you were. I'm CharliesGirl on here.  Julie

At 6:09pm on June 21, 2012, Kate said…
Hi, I got an email notice with the message you sent about our photos but don't know how to find it on my page to respond? So will try it this way.

Thank you, I LOVE our pictures too, I treasure having them! Yes, they were taken by a professional photographer friend of mine who just let us "be us" no posing for the camera, just us in love. They were taken May 17, 2011 3 very short months before Jeff passed away from GBM (brain cancer) Jeff never looked sick, we had no idea when doing this photo session that he would be gone so soon.
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At 8:10pm on June 16, 2012, Joyce said…

Welcome ebwilkie: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I know you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".

At 10:46am on June 15, 2012, Suz said…

Sorry, Elaine, I missed where you had put your names. I see you are from Canada. Us Minnesotans kind of think we are Canadians. Jud and I loved every trip to Canada. We used to have friends in Toronto and, just last summer, went to Quebec City and Montreal (during the little space that he felt ok). We had a great time. I am going to have to get out the globe and find out exactly where you are.

Suz

 
 
 

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