"Going ON---As bad as things are, your children need you. I want to believe there is something more when we leave this world. I hope upon hope to be reunited with my Robby and it would also be great to see my parents, grandparents, etc."
"Poppys girl--I even mentioned it to my daughter--she says--I didnt know what to say or do-does that means I am supposed to forget the day too? Until the day I die, May 17th will always hold a special place in my heart. My one…"
"Joellen/Adrift---I am at almost three years (9/9/2010) and I still wear my wedding rings, I still feel like I am married. We were married 41 years when he passed. If one more person says to me--You still wear your rings?--I would like to say--what…"
"Poppys Girl---This Sept will be three years for me---Happy and adjusted?--What's that. I can't remember the last time I felt happy about anything. Same as you the days are long, but the nights are much worse. I still can't believe he…"
"TimetoFly--I understand everything you said--I lost my husband in Sept 2010 and I just can't seem to get unstuck--the thought of living the rest of my life alone--I'm 64 now is so scary. Everyone tells me--it is up to me--join groups, do…"
"Anjoy---I am so sorry for the loss of your mom the day before Mother's Day and so close to the time of losing your husband. It seems just like too much for any one person to deal with. My thoughts and prayers are with you."
"Anjoy--So sorry for all you are going through. I remember making all those damn phone calls--everytime I explained the reason for my call--I would cry. It was awful. Didn't have too many problems with social security--just went to the offices…"
"Joellen, Jaycee, LostWithoutHer----May 17th will be the 3rd anniversary without my husband. He passed in Sept 2010--we were married for 41 years, together for 44. I can feel the sadness setting in. These specials days just continue to hurt so much.…"
"Joellen--I am so sorry for what you went thru the past few days--the anniversaries and special occasions are just the worst. No matter how much time passes, these days arrive and eat a whole in our hearts. May 17th will be my third anniversary…"
"Suz--It was actually one of my really close girlfriend's who made the suggestion about placing the pictures around--I had told her that every time I closed my eyes I could see him laying in that hospice bed--I was so afraid I would never get…"
"Suz--I keep pictures of the two of us together on almost every table in the house--especially in my family room where I watch the TV. In the beginning I was so afraid I would forget what he looked like--happy--not sick. When I go to bed at night I…"
"Dublin--Thank you so much for your encouraging post. This September I will reach the 3 year mark. I thought I was the only one still falling apart and getting those crying jags--not as much as I used to--but I still get them.I also feel so guilty…"
"Ebwilkie--Grief--everyone will experience some type of grief sooner or later in their life. You are right--with my sister in law, losing her dad was the first really close loss---and I know--I lost my parents--I will not ever deny her…"
Thank You so much for your kind words and understanding. It sounds like our husbands had alot in common. I agree with you I miss his grumpy days too. I miss everything about him. I hate having to call for someone to reapir something that I know Jim could fix somehow, but it is what it is I guess. Thanks again and thank you for the friend request, I need as many understanding friends as I can find.
Hi! I saw your earlier comments. I am almost at three years too. I could so relate to your comments about friends. This has not been a fun road but it is getting a little easier. Hope you are starting to feel some peace.
Hi. I lost my husband suddenly on August 16, 2012 to a massive heart attack. We would have been married 35 years on February 10th. We had so many plans that we put on hold as my mom had lung cancer. Lost her on October 15th. I am in the process of selling her house in NJ. My daughter is living there now but is moving closer to me in Nc in June. Life will never be the same. I cry everyday. Oh how I miss John and mom.
feelinglonely..........boy that's a perfect name. Lonely discribes our situation perfectly, Thank you for your kind words and I'm sorry for your loss as well. It's only been a year for me but, a totally lost one. I'm having trouble navagating around on this site. I hope to figure it out because I think it might help to "talk" to others that understand. Dusty
Welcome feelinglonely: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It"
Oh girl - I know what you mean. Somedays it still is so hard to wrap my head and heart around the fact that Mark's been gone almost 2 1/2 years......how is that possible ??? I miss him and love him more everyday.
I just miss our life........the life that we had, and the future that we planned.....and I don't think that will ever go away.
I'm glad you found us here.............it's helped me and I hope that you'll come here often. Hugs to you.