"I too have meanful objects around John's urn. Wedding pictures, love notes, the box I made him. I'm sorry today is esspecially hard. Who knows why some days hurt more than others? There doesn't have to be a reason why or monumental…"
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flannery commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"Oh how right you all are! Outsiders and God bless them I hope they never have to be otherwise don’t understand. Really you can’t know what you will do in any situation until it’s you that is facing it. Ellen you are spot on about…"
flannery commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"Widow38 interesting that you say that about anger because i really didn't start feeling angry till recently. And angry at John, my love, my rock. I keep saying things to him like "I shouldn't be doing (fill in here) you were supposed…"
flannery commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"Anyone else still have thier spouses ashes? other's think it's strange that I haven't done something with them yet but I'm not ready and honestly I'm not sure I will do anything with them. I'm eight months out. Anyone…"
flannery commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"ughh I'm only at 7 1/2 months since my John died hoping it will get better with time but like you it hasn't. Actaully I've been feeling worse these last weeks- hoping that's a phase. It feels like it just happened and last week I…"
flannery commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"Widow38. I am so sorry your sister feels that way. It can't make this any easier for either of you. I have been thinking about your post and how to respond because I have unfortunately experienced both divorce and the death of my beautiful…"
onmyown left a comment for flannery
"So sorry for your loss. I know the pain is like no other. It just hurts. I hope you will be able to find peace. You are in my prayers. Thinking of you this morning.
Jen"
flannery commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"Thank you Gary. Its' true what you say about these grief episodes and the desire for a fast forward button. So many times I've wished for that button just to ease the process a little."
flannery commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"It's been 6 1/2 months and I'm finding it harder than at two months but the day to day that must happen seems to be masking my own grief to me so that sometimes even I don't know just how bad…"
Patcpoo left a comment for flannery
"I have been going back and forth about our house too. We lived here for 32 years but every thing here makes me cry..i have decided to sell and move by my kids. I live on acreage and its a lot of work. I think in order for me to start over i need to…"
flannery commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"I'm so glad others are talking about what to do with the house. I've been thinking of selling ours. It just feels like I would have a fresher start somewhere else. Where I wasn't reminded that this is where John worked and talked to…"
flannery commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"You should be able to get a copy at the courthouse of whatever county he died in. that is the general rule in the United States. Is he listed on the birth certificate? If so your daughter is also his next of kin…"
flannery commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"Love the acronym and it is so correct! I too look too see who they are talking about. John loved community theater and was in lots of plays and always said I should be too, that I would be a good actress...I never did but I guess…"
flannery commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"I read that it is very common to regress around nine months. So much so that there are several scientific articles written about. No one knows why really but it happens across ages and cultures. Thank you for understanding that sometimes getting up…"
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- At 11:07am on April 2, 2013,
onmyown said… So sorry for your loss. I know the pain is like no other. It just hurts. I hope you will be able to find peace. You are in my prayers. Thinking of you this morning.
Jen
- At 8:30pm on March 22, 2013,
Patcpoo said… - I have been going back and forth about our house too. We lived here for 32 years but every thing here makes me cry..i have decided to sell and move by my kids. I live on acreage and its a lot of work. I think in order for me to start over i need to be away from this house. It is a huge decision but i think for me it has to be this way..good luck
- At 9:20pm on October 14, 2012,
greenup said…
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- At 10:53pm on October 13, 2012,
Joyce said… Welccome flannery: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
- At 10:42pm on October 13, 2012,
Dianne in Nevada said… 
I'm so sorry for your loss, flannery, but you've found a wonderful place for support and friendship. Here's a good place to start: Basic Site InfoJoin the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations. I look forward to getting to know you here.
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