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harvdzny
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  • Mount Holly, NC
  • United States
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Rough Week

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rainy Oct 5. 6 Replies

Hello everyone,I lost my best friend and soulmate in April very suddenly to a cardiac event.  I'm coming up on 6 months since he has been gone and, for some reason, this week has been particularly…Continue

New Widow Introducing Myself

Started this discussion. Last reply by Viva Aug 31. 14 Replies

Hello everyone,I became widowed on 4/15/2020.  My husband and I spent the day together, me working from home due to COVID and he was furloughed for the same reason.  After work, I cooked dinner.  We…Continue

 

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Maralina replied to harvdzny's discussion Lost my Purpose in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Six months for me on Oct 18.  I feel the same as you expressed your post.  An empty shell existing day to day with no hope or purpose.  Always lonely!"
Monday
harvdzny commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Today marks 6 months that my beloved soulmate has been gone.  I don't understand how 6 months have gone by when I feel like time is standing still.  I am so frustrated that his name doesn't cross the lips of others who claim to…"
Oct 15
Hurt cyclist replied to harvdzny's discussion Lost my Purpose in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Plans. I had plan to redo one of the mountain bike that I built in the late 80's so we could get in shape. There is a big gathering out of FairfaxCA.  It's called the Thanksgiving ride. Or known as the pine mountain loop. I was really…"
Oct 14
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Oct 14
kenzi replied to harvdzny's discussion Lost my Purpose in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I agree, tired of being sad. I have had such amazing support but I am tired of being the one that everyone asks "how are you" and they are going out of their way to make sure I am visited often. Some days I just want to be alone and then…"
Oct 13
Hurt cyclist replied to harvdzny's discussion Lost my Purpose in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I know the pain. I had plans. But how were am I going. It's  been 3 months. I don't  have a clue. I'm  still dealing with all the loose ends. Paperwork, records and belongings. The pain was so bad I had to go on some…"
Oct 13
harvdzny replied to harvdzny's discussion Lost my Purpose in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I will be 6 months on Oct 15th."
Oct 12
jpann39 replied to harvdzny's discussion Lost my Purpose in the group Suddenly Widowed
"harvdzny, Im the same way. I feel disconnected from life. It will be 5 months Oct 15th and I miss him more with each passing day. Nothing holds my interest so I find myself bouncing from one thing to the next. I use to be the upbeat, optimistic one…"
Oct 12
harvdzny commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Why are Sunday’s so hard?  Who am I kidding, the weekends are always hard.  During the week, at least I have work to keep me busy.  The weekends are quiet and lonely.  How am I supposed to do this for another 30 years?"
Oct 11
harvdzny commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2020
"Maggie May - I have always enjoyed cooking and baking.  My husband used to rub his belly and tell people "in case you couldn't tell, my wife is a great cook"!  This always made me chuckle.  So, even thought it's…"
Oct 9
harvdzny commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2020
"Last night, while cooking dinner, I burned my hand pretty badly.  I grabbed a pan that I had just pulled out of a 400 degree oven.  I know, stupid!  Anyway, I kept soaking my hand in cool water just to get some relief.  This sent…"
Oct 9
harvdzny added a discussion to the group Suddenly Widowed
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Lost my Purpose

I am so tired of feeling sad.  Next week will be 6 months since he has been gone.  I have this general feeling of sadness all the time.  The house is so quiet.  Just me and the dogs.  I was always an upbeat, optimistic person.  Now, there’s just no purpose anymore.  I miss him so much I feel it in my bones.  It is physical pain.See More
Oct 7
Rainy replied to harvdzny's discussion Rough Week
"((Darci))  I am nearly 3 yrs out.  I lost my everything to the same.   I think maybe the shock of it is wearing off for you.  So naturally, it gets worse before it gets better.  Just know better days are ahead. …"
Oct 5
jpann39 replied to harvdzny's discussion Rough Week
"hardzny, Im sorry for your loss and completely understand what you are feeling. I am 4 1/2 months out of loosing my husband & soulmate to a sudden cardiac event as well. I am doing the same as you. Working from home and trying to take care of…"
Oct 1
harvdzny replied to harvdzny's discussion Rough Week
"Thank you Barb.  Yes, I'm finding that the tears are never far away.  Even in a room full of people I can feel as lonely as if I was alone.  Grief is a very strange companion. Darci (harvdzny)"
Oct 1
harvdzny replied to harvdzny's discussion Rough Week
"Thank you Rick!  It's nice to be able to express what I'm feeling to people who truly understand. Darci (harvdzny)"
Oct 1

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I am a young widow looking to make connections with others who are going through the same terrible loss as me. I have learned that unless you have experienced it, you have no idea what it feels like. I need to be around people who understand the tremendous waves of grief that we experience.

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At 5:04pm on July 30, 2020, Debb said…

Hi,

I live in Charlotte, NC. I have been a widow for 1 year and it’s rough. I can’t get over losing him after he struggled with Gastric Cancer for one year. 

At 2:36pm on July 30, 2020, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, harvdzny. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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