"silverlady...yes, i finally am a little braver and ready to make the move. my daughter will be attending a highschool in redmond but we can live anywhere in the area bend/sisters/redmond. i have to find a job and house and it looks to be a bit…"
"here i sit...once again in tears. It has been 3 years..i thought it would get better. as father's day approaches and i see the sadness in my daughters eyes it makes it all hit home again. the worst is the nights...the quite. I still miss him…"
"omg..that poem struck home for sure! my daughter 16 has...sort of...made up memories. its strange. "i remember when dad gave this to me" but he in fact did not give it to her, i did.but I say nothing. unfortunatly most of her memories are…"
"Mary...I totally get it. my daughter and I too are in a huge house! however, we are moving this week to a 650 sq foot home. Its still in our town so I figured it was a good baby step to ..well...we are also looking to Oregon. (we are in Idaho). We…"
"I haven't been on in awhile either. I know exactly what you mean about losing the light in your heart. I feel as if all my smiles are for the sake of others...not really cuz I feel it. I smile for my kids. I feel very lonely all the time.…"
"well....I made it through the anniversary week of my husband's passing! my daughter and I took off for a week and went on a little trip! we were going to release balloons with a note on them...but the environmentalist in me couldn't do…"
"Thank you Froggie. and a late Happy Birthday to you. well...we, my daughter and I spent the day volunteering at a therapeutic horse back riding place then went to group grief therapy..not the best thing for a birthday but it just happened to fall on…"
"well...today is my second birthday in 30 years without my dear husband. He always sang a silly song every yr, makes me smile to think of it. I still cherish the 1st present he ever gave me. it is a hand carved wooden train. It seems like a strange…"
"hello, my husband also was taken from me due to a GBM. I was lucky that we had 4 good years after diagnosis but the last 1/2 was horrible. However, I have much guilt that I didn't make the 4 years great! we had money issues due to medical so…"
"I am in but my problem is that I have a shadow ( my daughter) since I lost my husband. Could we bring kids and stick them in a different room or would that take away from the wine drinking etc. lol! she is 15 but with disability more 12ish."
I'm sorry for your loss..It's been 2 yrs since I lost my husband of 22 yrs. I have an 8 and a 17 yr old. I can only say that when I was where you are, I didn't think i could breathe my guts seemed to be exposed to the world. I was sick to my stomach for about 8 months. But, as everyone told me, time is healing me. I can now focus on the blessings and not the horrors. But that takes time. I can only advise to be good to yourself, do what ever makes you happy. This site helps a lot, just reading how others are feeling the same thing makes it feel less empty and alone. God bless you and your kids. You will make it though.
Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You will find caring support and friendship here.
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