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catapan replied to lowrsr (Sherry)'s discussion Wedding Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"I'm "putting in my two-pennn'orth" as we say here in northern England. I'm seventy now and though I'm fit, active, apparently healthy and still alive - I can't imagine there could be any male, of whatever age, who…"
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Athena53 replied to lowrsr (Sherry)'s discussion Wedding Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"I'll take mine off at some point- the 6-month mark is approaching and that's too soon.  Maybe 12-month. I guess I'm not feeling "single" yet.  I'm open to companionship with another good man but DH would be a…"
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Kim replied to lowrsr (Sherry)'s discussion Wedding Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Happylilycat, I'm with you on the fact that my John was my one and only true love and soul mate and there won't be anyone else after him. I also wear his ring on a chain around my neck because when I considered resizing his ring to wear on…"
Wednesday
happylilycat replied to lowrsr (Sherry)'s discussion Wedding Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"I will never take my wedding ring off, Morris was the one and only love of my life, and I could care less about any other man. I wear his wedding ring around my neck because his fingers were so much bigger than mine that I cannot wear his ring on…"
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MsMouse replied to lowrsr (Sherry)'s discussion Wedding Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"I took mind off two months after he passed.  Only because in reality, we are no longer married.  "In death, do us part".  I still have his ring safely put away.  It does not mean I don't still love my late…"
Wednesday
Orb101214 replied to lowrsr (Sherry)'s discussion Wedding Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"My DH passed away in December.  We have two small children, 2 and 5.  I used to wear his ring and hold it down with my engagement ring and wedding ring.  It started to hurt my finger to have my wedding ring up so far so I took his…"
Wednesday
happylilycat commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Alternate Timelines
"Sherry, this post made me laugh and cry at the same time. My husband was a Trekkie, and this brought back many fond memories of watching Star Trek together (the original, although my favorite was the Next Generation- Jean Luc had such a great…"
Tuesday
Callie2 commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Alternate Timelines
"Interesting thought. Wish we could do that! Grieving is so hard--on top of horrible gut-wrenching pain are our minds that seem to go in all directions. One part tells us this is real but it takes the other part longer. Maybe thinking if we deny it,…"
Tuesday
laurajay commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Alternate Timelines
"Your time line  has NOT changed!   His has.  We are born...we live...then we die.  All part of each of our timelines  but all different!  You miss not paralleling  with him...not having him traveling with…"
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Jessica commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Alternate Timelines
"If you find out, will you please tell me?"
Apr 23
lowrsr (Sherry) replied to Riley's discussion I don't want this life in the group Widowed in 2016
"Where is the magic pill that makes our new lives bearable? I wish I knew. So many of us are suffering. Personally, I feel so alone. It has been 7 months since Alan died suddenly and I don't think I can ever get used to it. I have had a few days…"
Apr 23
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Alternate Timelines

I still wake up and feel like I’m stuck in the wrong timeline, like a Star Trek episode. Something isn’t right about this timeline, and I have to find my way back to the “right” timeline so history will go on the way it is supposed to go. In Star Trek, the character refuses to accept the new timeline, even when people think he is…See More
Apr 23
catapan replied to lowrsr (Sherry)'s discussion Wedding Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"WV12345 - how brave you must be feeling.     All that you're doing - thinking about and struggling with the notion that your together-life is really over and you are truly alone.    I can't envisage being at this point,…"
Apr 22
WV12345 replied to lowrsr (Sherry)'s discussion Wedding Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Hi Sherry,  I'm wearing my husband's ring on a chain around my neck. My grief counselor asked me a month ago if I had thoughts or plans about removing my rings. I told him that I felt for me... removing the wedding band, will be the…"
Apr 22
lowrsr (Sherry) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"What a happy "coincidence" Catapan! happylilycat - I hope Sunday was still a good Easter gathering. Sometimes the dread and anticipation is worse than the actual event.  Some days I still don't know how I can go on. It still can…"
Apr 20
Athena53 replied to lowrsr (Sherry)'s discussion Wedding Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"I was in the middle of cleaning the kitchen but had to stop and post this.  The wedding band DH had when he died was a replacement of the original.  The first one, which was platinum, disappeared 2 years ago when we moved.  DH was…"
Apr 12

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Alternate Timelines

Posted on April 23, 2017 at 12:08pm 4 Comments

I still wake up and feel like I’m stuck in the wrong timeline, like a Star Trek episode. Something isn’t right about this timeline, and I have to find my way back to the “right” timeline so history will go on the way it is supposed to go. In Star Trek, the character refuses to accept the new timeline, even when…

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Unpacking

Posted on March 26, 2017 at 4:45pm 1 Comment

Can I ever go camping again? I love to camp. That is, I loved to camp. Before. Now, I don’t know if I still love to camp. I always went with Alan, and part of what made camping fun was to be with him.  I don’t know if I still love to camp. For now, I know it will just be too hard, so I am selling our camper.  …

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When Will I Stop Feeling Sad? Or, Another Widow Temper Tantrum

Posted on March 19, 2017 at 2:00pm 5 Comments

It has been six months since Alan died. I’m wondering when do I get to be happy again? When does life regain its color and meaning?  I’m doing the little things and checking things off my do-do list every day, which has its degree of satisfaction. Sometimes I even do something fun. But even the fun activities don’t mean the same to me anymore. I can’t share them with Alan. I take him with me in my heart but it’s not the same.  It still hurts terribly that I can’t share the fun times with…

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Letters: I Don't Want to Forget

Posted on February 19, 2017 at 7:11am 3 Comments

It’s been five months since I have seen you, and I feel like I am starting to forget. Even though remembering hurts, it hurts even worse to forget.  When I dream about you, it is sometimes not your face I see, even though I know it’s you. How can that be? Where is your face when I need it so much?…

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At 5:27am on November 9, 2016, crowlda (Dave) said…

Sherry, I lost my wife last July to cancer. I too am feeling very alone and scared. People that haven't experienced this kind of loss really don't know what we are gong through. I would love to talk with you if you are ever in the Alpharetta area.  Dave

At 12:39pm on October 27, 2016, FootballGeek said…

By the way, my name is Jeff...

At 12:34pm on October 27, 2016, FootballGeek said…

HI, Sherry- I read your comment about life insurance...don't feel guilty. This is why your husband purchased it. My own experience was burning through cash- after my wife's death. We had just done two remodel jobs on our home, then of course the mortuary expenses (in Italy) and flying my children and son in law over to spend time with their mother in her last few days on earth. Then I had to capitalize my daughter, who gave birth to twins three months later. It all totaled to over $38k. I would have wiped me out financially- my savings, at least-and would likely have had to sell my home, after losing over half of household earnings. She had a work policy and a private policy. It would have been crushing to have to deal with grieving and financial problems at the same time. You have probably read horror stories already, on this and other sites, widows(ers) that were left destitute after a spouse dies without a will and life insurance.

I have not touched the private funds. I hired a financial adviser who invests my funds and the IRA I transferred my wife's 401(k) account to. However, one adviser suggested doing one thing a year - at least- for myself no matter what the cost. So I rented a beach house and treated the people who were there in my families hour of need, along with my kids and grandtwins to a weekend on a beach my wife loved. I also went to Ireland last May for ten days. It was great advice. I'm returning to Hawaii next spring and have begun planning a trip to Australia. I was also able to help out with my younger daughter's wedding. 

I think my wife would be happy I did these things, plus knowing I can be there for my kids in an emergency. 

Again, this is not blood money. It was a smart thing to do in case what we never expect to happen, happens. 

Take care- and sorry for your loss. 


At 6:33pm on October 20, 2016, Patience (Diane) said…
Welcome to Widville, Lowrsr. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the help link at the top of the page. The chat room is open 24/7. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.
 
 
 

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