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Riley replied to lowrsr (Sherry)'s discussion Wedding Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"My husband passed July 2016 and I wear my wedding rings and I had his ring sized to fit on my right hand.  I couldn't bear to take them off.  We were married 39 years, and I still love and cherish him.  "
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Lablady replied to lowrsr (Sherry)'s discussion Wedding Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Sherry, My dear husband passed away in Dec 2016. After a series of strokes, they discovered "untreatable" cancer, stage 4, was a +1 mutation and "very aggressive" in his abdomen and on his lungs (not in them) and in-between his…"
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Susan replied to lowrsr (Sherry)'s discussion Wedding Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"I still wear wedding rings... I just added a mourning ring to it. ( It's like an anniversary band only with black stones ) Susan"
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Miket replied to lowrsr (Sherry)'s discussion Wedding Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"When my wife died I did not know what do do with her ring - I did not want to leave it with her as I have heard many bad stories of jewelry disappearing, I did not want to leave it in a box to collect dust, and sell it - no way. So I took her ring…"
Jun 11
bblue5 commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post A New Hope?
"I lost my husband just shy of 2 months ago and it is still raw. I hope it gets easier as time goes on. Wish you the best."
Jun 2
I_was_here commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post A New Hope?
"I could have said everything you did and been talking about Jake and I.  I think the part that's getting easier is my expectation of what the days might feel like.  Perhaps a tiny bit of acceptance is growing for both of us. *Peace*"
May 25
Nieta replied to lowrsr (Sherry)'s discussion Wedding Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"That's beautiful MPMom, Everyone simply needs to do what feels right for them.  I'm 3 years and 3 months along in my journey and I feel most comfortable wearing both his ring and mine and use my engagement ring to keep them in…"
May 23
MPMom (Colleen) replied to lowrsr (Sherry)'s discussion Wedding Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"I'm 11 months out today and I wear my rings.  He hardly ever wore his (long story), and I tried putting it on a chain around my neck, but didn't like it.  Instead, i have a small heart urn that I put some of his ashes in.  I…"
May 23
Maggie commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Alternate Timelines
"It's odd that I saw this post because I don't ordinarily come here, but to just the groups I belong to. But I've been thinking the exact thing lately about alternative universes or timelines. It's been four years for me and these…"
May 19
happylilycat commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post A New Hope?
"I'm sorry for your pain yesterday, and always. Thanks for giving me some food for thought. "Making room for it in my life" is a really cool concept, painful but also cool.  Wishing you and all of us a little tranquility today.…"
May 17
lowrsr (Sherry) posted a blog post

A New Hope?

It’s been eight months today since I lost my soulmate. I still miss everything about him – his smile, his jokes, his hugs, and more… And still, somehow, I have managed to live on this planet eight months without him. I feel sad that I haven’t seen him in eight months, and believe it or not, a little…See More
May 16
happylilycat commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Grief Defines my Existence
"I love your blog posts Sherry, and I'm glad you are getting your feelings out through writing. I have my days when I curse the gods of the Universe and cry myself to sleep. There's a line from a movie I saw a while back that I never forgot…"
May 13
OffBalance commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Grief Defines my Existence
"I enjoyed your post/blog and it brings to mind a thought that continues to echo in my head and in my heart. I am not certain that I want things to get better, for the grief to end, the black cloud to lighten or clear. It seems that these heavy and…"
May 12
Callie2 commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Grief Defines my Existence
"Sherry, each day is a day closer to healing. Grieving is not easy and requires a lot of patience. We don't know how long we can expect it to last but please believe that in time, the pain eases. We pass through the dark days and come out on the…"
May 12
WithoutJim commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Grief Defines my Existence
"Oh ((Sherry) yes -- oh yes, that very black cloud of despair envelops you, but eventually the kids's laughter and activities will absorb much of that grief and even though that empty bed will still be beside you, you will make room somehow some…"
May 12
lowrsr (Sherry) posted a blog post

Grief Defines my Existence

Grief is ever present in my life. It has defined my existence since September 16 of last year. Every moment of every day, I am reminded of the great absence that holds me hostage.  Sometimes it is a black, heavy cloud of despair that envelops me, other times it is a lighter, more distant ripple of nostalgia.…See More
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A New Hope?

Posted on May 16, 2017 at 8:45am 3 Comments

It’s been eight months today since I lost my soulmate. I still miss everything about him – his smile, his jokes, his hugs, and more… And still, somehow, I have managed to live on this planet eight months without him. I feel sad that I haven’t seen him in eight months, and believe it or…

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Grief Defines my Existence

Posted on May 12, 2017 at 4:30pm 4 Comments

Grief is ever present in my life. It has defined my existence since September 16 of last year. Every moment of every day, I am reminded of the great absence that holds me hostage.  Sometimes it is a black, heavy cloud of despair that envelops me, other times it is a lighter, more distant ripple…

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Alternate Timelines

Posted on April 23, 2017 at 12:08pm 5 Comments

I still wake up and feel like I’m stuck in the wrong timeline, like a Star Trek episode. Something isn’t right about this timeline, and I have to find my way back to the “right” timeline so history will go on the way it is supposed to go. In Star Trek, the character refuses to accept the new timeline, even when…

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Unpacking

Posted on March 26, 2017 at 4:45pm 1 Comment

Can I ever go camping again? I love to camp. That is, I loved to camp. Before. Now, I don’t know if I still love to camp. I always went with Alan, and part of what made camping fun was to be with him.  I don’t know if I still love to camp. For now, I know it will just be too hard, so I am selling our camper.  …

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At 5:27am on November 9, 2016, crowlda (Dave) said…

Sherry, I lost my wife last July to cancer. I too am feeling very alone and scared. People that haven't experienced this kind of loss really don't know what we are gong through. I would love to talk with you if you are ever in the Alpharetta area.  Dave

At 12:39pm on October 27, 2016, FootballGeek said…

By the way, my name is Jeff...

At 12:34pm on October 27, 2016, FootballGeek said…

HI, Sherry- I read your comment about life insurance...don't feel guilty. This is why your husband purchased it. My own experience was burning through cash- after my wife's death. We had just done two remodel jobs on our home, then of course the mortuary expenses (in Italy) and flying my children and son in law over to spend time with their mother in her last few days on earth. Then I had to capitalize my daughter, who gave birth to twins three months later. It all totaled to over $38k. I would have wiped me out financially- my savings, at least-and would likely have had to sell my home, after losing over half of household earnings. She had a work policy and a private policy. It would have been crushing to have to deal with grieving and financial problems at the same time. You have probably read horror stories already, on this and other sites, widows(ers) that were left destitute after a spouse dies without a will and life insurance.

I have not touched the private funds. I hired a financial adviser who invests my funds and the IRA I transferred my wife's 401(k) account to. However, one adviser suggested doing one thing a year - at least- for myself no matter what the cost. So I rented a beach house and treated the people who were there in my families hour of need, along with my kids and grandtwins to a weekend on a beach my wife loved. I also went to Ireland last May for ten days. It was great advice. I'm returning to Hawaii next spring and have begun planning a trip to Australia. I was also able to help out with my younger daughter's wedding. 

I think my wife would be happy I did these things, plus knowing I can be there for my kids in an emergency. 

Again, this is not blood money. It was a smart thing to do in case what we never expect to happen, happens. 

Take care- and sorry for your loss. 


At 6:33pm on October 20, 2016, Patience (Diane) said…
Welcome to Widville, Lowrsr. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the help link at the top of the page. The chat room is open 24/7. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.
 
 
 

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