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lowrsr (Sherry)
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lowrsr (Sherry) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"Yay for all of us when we manage to go forward one more day! "
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Anna commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post When Will I Stop Feeling Sad? Or, Another Widow Temper Tantrum
"Hi Sherry. I feel the same at 9 months. I especially relate to the part about doing something fun and it's not as fun as it used to be. It *is* fun, but not the same as before. And then I go home and I'm sad again. However, I do see a…"
Monday
Lostmyeverything commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post When Will I Stop Feeling Sad? Or, Another Widow Temper Tantrum
"Sherry and Witty, you summed up my feelings and experiences to the tee. I keep trying to live, just the necessities to keep me and my children moving ....I keep seeing him open his eyes and stare at me the night before he passed. He had not opened…"
Monday
WittyBlondeWolverine commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post When Will I Stop Feeling Sad? Or, Another Widow Temper Tantrum
"I feel the same way, Sherry. I just want it to get better. Or at least easier. I keep trying one thing after another and it might help for a bit. But then some random thing brings me back to the day he died. Him taking his last breath. How scared he…"
Monday
Callie2 commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post When Will I Stop Feeling Sad? Or, Another Widow Temper Tantrum
"Sherry, your feelings are shared by many. I wished too there was something to stop the pain. We know realistically, time is the only thing that can dull that terrible ache. The length of time varies for each of us but each day is a day closer,…"
Monday
lowrsr (Sherry) posted a blog post

When Will I Stop Feeling Sad? Or, Another Widow Temper Tantrum

It has been six months since Alan died. I’m wondering when do I get to be happy again? When does life regain its color and meaning?  I’m doing the little things and checking things off my do-do list every day, which has its degree of satisfaction. Sometimes I even do something fun. But even the fun activities don’t mean the same to me anymore. I can’t share them with Alan. I take him with me in my heart but it’s not the same.  It still hurts terribly that I can’t share the fun times with him.…See More
Mar 19
lowrsr (Sherry) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"Catapan and all,  I so much miss the holding and cuddling, the shared, beautiful moments when we were together. I miss the touching and sharing. The intimacy. I can't get that anywhere else but the man who was the light of my life.…"
Mar 19
Callie2 commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Letters: I Don't Want to Forget
"Sherry, I think our brains are quite complex and seem to play tricks on us. It may be a way of dealing with the intense pain of your recent loss. I doubt this will be permanent, I predict in time, this will no longer be the case. Our love for them…"
Feb 20
NoLongerInBergenJC commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Letters: I Don't Want to Forget
"I find that is the double-edged sword of moving on and continuing to live -- that the life we had becomes ever more remote and far away until it feels like it was someone else's life, just as the life we had before we met them feels like…"
Feb 19
Doug02122014 commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Letters: I Don't Want to Forget
"Sherry, I too fight this fear. Thus, my widville username "DOUG02122014". When I found widville I was 2 weeks out and very raw. I already was deeply into the widowed fog and forgetting everything. I was so worried that I would forget the…"
Feb 19
lowrsr (Sherry) posted a blog post

Letters: I Don't Want to Forget

It’s been five months since I have seen you, and I feel like I am starting to forget. Even though remembering hurts, it hurts even worse to forget.  When I dream about you, it is sometimes not your face I see, even though I know it’s you. How can that be? Where is your face when I need it so much?I don’t want to…See More
Feb 19
lowrsr (Sherry) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"I hope you have a good anniversary, Alex. I am dreading that day. It will be in July. It would have been our 10th. The 10th anniversary, to me, meant we had "made it" - to the big leagues. I was so happy that I was with someone who I was…"
Jan 17
lowrsr (Sherry) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"Alex! I'm so sorry to hear that you lost Anora your baby girl! I haven't been reading posts very much lately. My work has ramped up so much in the last month or so. I have almost no free time. Single working parenting is pretty stinky. But…"
Jan 17
happylilycat commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post F%^&k 2016
"Sherry, I get it. Thanks for the middle finger icon, I'm loving it! I feel the same way. 2016 took the love of my life away, so let's hope 2017 brings us all some peace and calm."
Jan 17
happylilycat commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post F%^&k 2016
Jan 17
Callie2 commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Letters to my Late Husband: You Made Me Believe In Love
"So well articulated and heartfelt, I am sure. I really hope that you and others will make hard copy to keep and reread--even include them in a book to pass down to children and grandchildren. I certainly can relate to your feelings and everything…"
Jan 15

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When Will I Stop Feeling Sad? Or, Another Widow Temper Tantrum

Posted on March 19, 2017 at 2:00pm 4 Comments

It has been six months since Alan died. I’m wondering when do I get to be happy again? When does life regain its color and meaning?  I’m doing the little things and checking things off my do-do list every day, which has its degree of satisfaction. Sometimes I even do something fun. But even the fun activities don’t mean the same to me anymore. I can’t share them with Alan. I take him with me in my heart but it’s not the same.  It still hurts terribly that I can’t share the fun times with…

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Letters: I Don't Want to Forget

Posted on February 19, 2017 at 7:11am 3 Comments

It’s been five months since I have seen you, and I feel like I am starting to forget. Even though remembering hurts, it hurts even worse to forget.  When I dream about you, it is sometimes not your face I see, even though I know it’s you. How can that be? Where is your face when I need it so much?…

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Valentine's Day

Posted on February 8, 2017 at 4:52pm 1 Comment

11 years ago I was in the grocery store and on a whim, bought a little valentine stuffed animal for a man I had been running into at my kids' school and talking to. He had asked me out but I said it was too early (I was still going through a divorce). We talked on the phone a couple of times, and then when I saw all…

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Letters to my Late Husband: You Made Me Believe In Love

Posted on January 15, 2017 at 10:42am 1 Comment

When I met you, I didn’t believe in love. I thought love was something that blinds people to reality and gets them in trouble. I was certain I would never find that magical love I had dreamed about when I was youthful and idealistic, because that love didn’t exist. And then I met you.

I didn’t want a relationship. I wanted to be free from attachments and the pain of failed…

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At 5:27am on November 9, 2016, crowlda (Dave) said…

Sherry, I lost my wife last July to cancer. I too am feeling very alone and scared. People that haven't experienced this kind of loss really don't know what we are gong through. I would love to talk with you if you are ever in the Alpharetta area.  Dave

At 12:39pm on October 27, 2016, FootballGeek said…

By the way, my name is Jeff...

At 12:34pm on October 27, 2016, FootballGeek said…

HI, Sherry- I read your comment about life insurance...don't feel guilty. This is why your husband purchased it. My own experience was burning through cash- after my wife's death. We had just done two remodel jobs on our home, then of course the mortuary expenses (in Italy) and flying my children and son in law over to spend time with their mother in her last few days on earth. Then I had to capitalize my daughter, who gave birth to twins three months later. It all totaled to over $38k. I would have wiped me out financially- my savings, at least-and would likely have had to sell my home, after losing over half of household earnings. She had a work policy and a private policy. It would have been crushing to have to deal with grieving and financial problems at the same time. You have probably read horror stories already, on this and other sites, widows(ers) that were left destitute after a spouse dies without a will and life insurance.

I have not touched the private funds. I hired a financial adviser who invests my funds and the IRA I transferred my wife's 401(k) account to. However, one adviser suggested doing one thing a year - at least- for myself no matter what the cost. So I rented a beach house and treated the people who were there in my families hour of need, along with my kids and grandtwins to a weekend on a beach my wife loved. I also went to Ireland last May for ten days. It was great advice. I'm returning to Hawaii next spring and have begun planning a trip to Australia. I was also able to help out with my younger daughter's wedding. 

I think my wife would be happy I did these things, plus knowing I can be there for my kids in an emergency. 

Again, this is not blood money. It was a smart thing to do in case what we never expect to happen, happens. 

Take care- and sorry for your loss. 


At 6:33pm on October 20, 2016, Patience (Diane) said…
Welcome to Widville, Lowrsr. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the help link at the top of the page. The chat room is open 24/7. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.
 
 
 

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