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Credit Card Theft
Started this discussion. Last reply by janet Feb 8. 2 Replies 0 Likes
I am a very credit savvy person, check my credit card and bank account on line every day and have email alerts set up, so this I was able to catch a problem very quickly. But I want to share my…Continue
Ashes to Ashes
Started this discussion. Last reply by Bear Jun 15, 2012. 7 Replies 0 Likes
Just picked up the ashes from the funeral home. Not sure how I feel, or how I should feel. It's been almost 26 months. I donated his body to a medical school. I didn't think I would get the ashes…Continue
ACS Relay for Life
Started this discussion. Last reply by Ace Mar 20, 2012. 2 Replies 2 Likes
In the mail Saturday was a card inviting Mike to the "Survivors Dinner" for the Relay for Life. He got his first posthumous invitation just a couple weeks after his death. I called and explained…Continue
Do you feel guilty for not feeling horrible?
Started this discussion. Last reply by Krista Westervelt (whoknows) Mar 18. 93 Replies 4 Likes
I feel like I am doing pretty well. I read posts here, some from new widows, some from widows on the journey longer than I, (I am just under 22 months) and I think, "Why does it seem easier for me? …Continue
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mahagen commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 50s
"Gordy's widow, I don't think that is sick at all, I think it is inspired! Mike also had lung cancer, we were told 6 to 9 months, but he astounded all the docs by living 27 months! And 25 of them were good months! Only the first and the…"
mahagen commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 50s
"I am starting year 4 and yes, it seemed like the second year was harder. I have had some life changes in the third year, in that my younger son got married and I now have a daughter in law and in this year I will be getting a granddaughter. I hope…"
mahagen commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 50s
"Gody's widow, I cried like a baby the first and second summer, everytime I mowed, cried and talked to him.....
Last summer it wasn't every time and not for the whole time. This year, I can mow without crying....."
mahagen replied to audreypellicano's discussion Healthy Living After Loss
"May I pat myself on the back? Just got back from Weight Watchers and I have lost 5 weeks in a row! They are small losses each week, but in the correct direction!
I passed the 3rd sadaversary last week and it was easier this year, I suppose…"
mahagen commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 50s
"Su,
I just passed my 3rd sadaversary and this year I can mow the lawn without crying. It takes time... and crying is OK, we need to wash our sadness out with tears.
I have to mow today and am actually looking forward to it. Who woulda thought that…"
mahagen commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 50s
"Mari, yes, I ask that all the time. I don't have an answer I can stick with. Sometimes I want to be retired. Sometimes I want to have a different job. Sometimes I want to be in a new relationship. Sometimes I want to be in Heaven."
mahagen commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 50s
"Three years ago today....... This is the first time I worked on the sadaversary. I was doing ok, came in very early because I didn't sleep well at all. I was doing ok until my son emailed and asked how I was today.... then the tears started. I…"
mahagen commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 50s
"I am so blessed in that I was asked to join a group of widows, I call us the Merry Widows. WE meet once a month for dinner out, and once a month to just talk. Many of them were "couple" friends before they became widows and some travel…"
mahagen commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 50s
"My daughter in law is expecting my first grandchild in August. We were really looking forward to being grandparents. I still am and think I will feel joy again when she is born. I like to think that Mike already met Maddie, held her soul in his arms…"
mahagen replied to PrincessWidowGirl's discussion 3 Good Things
"Happy Easter!
1. It's Easter!
2. I am hosting supper for 16 people, the desserts are made, the menu is planned and I am ready to do this.
3. I found out on Friday that my first grand baby is going to be a granddaughter. (OK, I wanted a boy,…"
mahagen commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 50s
"Boie77,
"but who do you tell" Yes, who indeed? Like you I don't want my boys to know about the bad days, my sisters don't get it...other widows are who you tell. We get it. There are now 6 widows in my company...oh, there…"
Krista Westervelt (whoknows) replied to mahagen's discussion Do you feel guilty for not feeling horrible?
"Marisa,
I'd like to invite you to join the private Survivors of Addiction and Substance Abuse group here on WidVille. We're open to folks who have lost spouses/partners who struggled with addiction/alcoholism/etc.
-Krista"
Dianne in Nevada replied to mahagen's discussion Do you feel guilty for not feeling horrible?
"Oh Marisa ... please don't feel guilty. We each do what we feel we must to survive, whatever is best for us. Our losses were all different and how we grieve is, too. No one should judge you because they were not living your life."
MariK5 replied to mahagen's discussion Do you feel guilty for not feeling horrible?
"Hello Mahagen,
I hope you are doing well. I have to say that sometimes I feel the same. My husband die almost 10 months ago. I do miss him and love him but I have move on. Sometimes I feel guilty that I don't feel sad all the time. My therapist…"
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- At 7:41pm on January 2, 2012,
puddy said…
Mahagen, getting caught up on all the posts and I really want to thank you for the prayer. I am moving toward 8 months and this past two weeks have been the toughest for me. I am struggling with living alone and feeling the loneliness....lost my Dad a month before my husband....I keep moving forward and realize God is walking with me. My faith needs to be stronger ...... and learning to realize there is really I can control is a struggle I am dealing with. Thanks again..... Puddy
- At 4:55pm on May 21, 2011,
Dianne in Nevada said… 
- At 6:08am on May 20, 2011,
Dawn- Clouds Mum said… - Thinking of you on your Birthday and wishing you a day of peace. (((hugs)))
- At 1:26am on April 5, 2011, Dianne in Nevada said…
- Welcome to Widowed Village, Marg. You’ve come to a wonderful place filled with those who understand how difficult this is. Joining groups is a great way to get connected to others who have similar experiences. Request some friends, try out the chat room, just immerse yourself in this very special place. I look forward to getting acquainted with you here in Widville.
- At 5:15pm on April 4, 2011,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… 
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