"(((carol))) a big hug to you, with all my heart. First weeks are horrible. I needed two whole months just to "realize" he was not coming back. Something in my mind was interrupted and wasn't talking with other parts.Take your time,…"
"2nd partUnexpected, one day I had the first moment I noticed Spring was coming. It was Valentine Day, and I had to go to the cemetery (on that day!) for some bureaucracy with indifferent employees used to handle documents without to see…"
"So sorry for you all :(.My husband died suddenly and unexpectedly on 09-/21/2013. I am Italian and live in Rome so sorry for my poor English. it' s a lot of time I weren't here to read and write... pls read to the end :)That morning…"
"(((Sally)))you like many of others here are in my toughts. So difficult to plan this mark day :/. Finally I realized that for other marks in the last year I did some kind of celebration (on his brithday for example, but for our anniversary…"
"You all are in my toughts and prayers. smcerie I remember that you and me just have a week of "distance" :/.I really do not know what to do that day. One part of me would like just to be alone and survive the day. Another one thinks to…"
"((Bergen and Susan)) I have 2 sons who are very worried for me in these months so i had that feeling ("noone calls to say are you fine") just a few times. BTW I had in any case that feeling, because nobody can replace him. I mean, even if…"
"((pipin)) thank you so much for your words. You summarize perfectly so many of my feelings!
((myroses)) so sorry for your feelings and troubles. i will pray for you too. in my last therapy sessions I started to repeat how much I am tired... tired of…"
"((booktime)) my 11-mos mark is exactly in one week so we are at the same point of this challenge.When i was in the very first weeks, many widows told me that "the worse has to come": I couldn't believe there was possible a…"
"((lalond)) I am really admirated.. you are really brave. I think I coudn't manage such a trip like yours without sobbing and crying all time long.I just am back home after 1 week holidaty in London with a group of relatives and friends. London,…"
sorry I was busy in the last days...
((butterflybarb)), yes you are right about anticipation. Last Xmas I was scared about the traditional dinner we used to spend in my parents-ini-law... but it wans't so horrible like I imagined... My…"
I was far from here for a while too, overwhelmed for all the stuff you said (((my roses))).These ups and downs are killing me. Most downs in the last 2 months, actually.last 21th was my 10 months mark. the 9th mark hit me so hard for several…"
"Ellen, yes... often I had your same feelings.In the very first days I was very "worry" for him: Was it painful for him? He was alone in that moment, was he scared? Did he realize what was happening? Was he in peace then, or angry or…"
"((becca)) so sorry for your loss :(. and thanks for your words.
((flannery)) many thanks for the quoting: So true!!! That friend I told you, asked me too "is it really needed to seek and scan each deep angle of pain? cannot we just put it in a…"
"Rebecca and Suzanne, first months are terrible. For me it's just 8 months, but I am starting to feel a little difference from the first months when I was totally shocked and devastated.
My husband dies suddenly for a heart attack, I just went…"
Martina: I am so happy to be your friend. The pain does get easier as time passes, but for you it is only 5 months. You need to just take one day at a time and not think too far in the future. Losing a loving spouse is one of the most painful and difficult things to endure in this life. Unless one goes through this themselves, it is very hard to explain. That is why it is so comforting to come to this site. I think you prefer communicating in English and that is fine. I am so very sorry for the loss of your husband and may God be close to you and your sons to comfort and bless you all. Ciao, Ellen
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