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Delayed Memorial/Celebration for Husband

Started this discussion. Last reply by Callie2 Jan 3, 2015. 13 Replies

Hello, all!I wanted to get some feedback from you guys about possibly doing a memorial service for my husband on the 2-year anniversary of his death. I never had one after he died, and I know that he…Continue

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The Weight of a Day

Posted on November 24, 2015 at 12:31pm 2 Comments

You never know what you are going to wake up to on any given day. That was especially true today as I got an early morning phone call from a friend telling me his brother and sister-in-law lost their baby during delivery this morning. My heart instantly broke for them all, however it wasn't until he stopped by the office did it sink in how much pain he is in.

I can't imagine living through that specific situation, but what I can relate to is the pain of loss, the confusion of death…


What Lies Beneath

Posted on December 9, 2014 at 11:00am 0 Comments

By nature and formal education I am a writer and a creative brain. Any medium that allows me to express myself without limits is a form of heaven to me. So, when I lost my husband and I suddenly began to clam up, I was shocked. Not certain if it was the fear that verbalizing it would make his death more real or the pain of having the memories, the sound of his voice and the warmth of his hug come flooding back to me that scared me more.

During his illness, I had to be the strong,…


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At 6:16am on October 15, 2015, Jim said…

I just read your December 9th 2014 comments you titled, " What Lies Beneath."  Thank you so much for your thoughts.  My wife died August 27th 2015.  You've expressed so many of my thoughts.   Am "newly" widowed...and it is a horrible feeling.  Am weeping now.  Whenever I think of my wife I cry.  When I see her clothes, or some of the ceramic pots she made, I cry...The loneliest time is when am driving our car.  She use to tell me stories in the car of the mystery novels she's been reading.  This became a favorite past time for us.  We'd drive about 40 minutes to the tennis club, and she'd say, "to be continued..."  And, then, on our drive home she'd continue the stories.  Or, she'd pull out the lyrics of a song she wanted to learn and start singing them in the car.  I miss her so much.  

I have no problem weeping or crying whenever one of her tennis partners come up to hug me...I didn't have any closure with my wife.  She had a massive stroke on a Sunday morning, was lucid for a couple of days, and then she died late that Wednesday night.  She died in just 3 days!  We had Palliative Care & Hospice who helped make her comfortable.  I didn't cry at all those 3 days...but when I reflected on the awful pain of my suffering I simply broke down and started wailing and crying.  Nothing could stop me from expressing my pain.  We would be celebrating 58 years of marriage this Christmas.  

I just wanted to share my story with you...and thank you for your story as well.


At 3:05pm on February 12, 2015, Davy said…

Thank You all.

At 11:27am on December 9, 2014, BESTBUDS1 [Norman} said…

So sorry for your loss , all of us are close by if you need anything, even to vent.. I wish you peace in your new journey..,,Norm

At 8:58am on December 9, 2014, wannabmartha said…

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