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The new normal???????

Started this discussion. Last reply by CoolMom! (Lynne) Sep 3, 2013. 3 Replies

What a term "The New Normal" I heard it all over this site. On forums, blogs and chat. I thought I understood what it ment, what it implyied. Turns out I didnt have a clue. Ive learned that it is a…Continue

Spreading ashes at sea

Started this discussion. Last reply by Dianne in Nevada May 24, 2013. 15 Replies

My wifes last wishers were to have her ashes spread over the ocean. We never were on a cruise or anything like that and I have been checking cruise lines and they all seem to want you to use a…Continue


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Losing joy

Posted on December 2, 2013 at 4:00pm 6 Comments

Just wondering if anyone else has gone through this. The loss of joy. Since my wife passed, the joy of life has left with here. I don't mean feeling lonely or the loss of love. We all face that. It seem to be the biggest part of grief. What I mean is the lack of caring....about anything. I never realized the amount of joy my wife put out. Cleaning, cooking and decorating. Always with a smile, know matter how hard it was she made it seem effortless. Some people can project a arora and some…


A mans perspective

Posted on May 29, 2013 at 8:59am 20 Comments

I am writing this because of things I've read or chated about on this site. This is a women domanated site. Maybe men die sooner or women take better care of themselves but the fact remains this site has a low man percentage. I've heard the at the last Camp East there were 200 women and 3 men. Sorts says it all.I've been told that not may women here the other side so heres mine. First I DONT SPEAK FOR ALL MEN just me. Theres is a big difference between a man lossing his wife and a wife…


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At 12:41pm on February 23, 2014, Bruja said…
Thanks Dan, hope you're doing ok
At 2:45pm on December 5, 2013, oceangirl said…

Thanks, Dan, for your friend request. I hope I can get some thoughts in there that will help, and vice versa. Hang in, my friend.

At 7:27am on October 15, 2013, my roses said…

My roses October 15th 2013

Hi Dan

Thankyou for writing your blog with the men's side of this horror journey. I feel very sad that there are men sitting at home, afraid to show their pain or tears to anyone and in many cases being 'speared' by others that he shouldl be avoided  at all costs... because he could be weird even dangerous.  As a former counsellor and suffering deeply re my husband, I have reached out to men to give them comfort.  But they are hard to find.  I went to a talk about a week ago, and  a man of 95 was a "Bush poet". Reciting poems about the outback and the hard times and losses.  He was going well for quite a while but when it came to poems (too near the heart) he found himself unable to remember the words.  I knew that  this was happening because he had some sort of loss.  So I made an effort to speak with him afterwards.  YES, HE TOLD ME HE HAD LOST HIS WIFE 3yrs  ago.  He was obviously still grieving but not really had any one to talk to who understood.  I plan to contact him again , so he can talk if he wishes, also to help him with any practical needs such as bill payment,  or hardship funds.  I feel that we are all the same when it comes to a love of your life relationship - it hits us, tears us, rips us.  We can only share when we can trust those around us understand.  Today I reached out to a young man of 26 who has a Love of Life relationship but his beloved is overseas and  has become ill.  He is like a soul brother to me and we formed a friendship based on us both experiencing a Love of Life crisis.  He said because i openly talked about this he found he could make a decision about his all this.  He decided to leave his job and fly to UK to be with her.

At 4:17pm on April 15, 2013, Deb01az said…

wished, my ,fingers, all worked ,together !

At 4:17pm on April 15, 2013, Deb01az said…

Aand I thank you, for making me laugh!!


At 7:46pm on April 8, 2013, JPSwifeCathy said…
Hey Dan.
Thanx for loaning out your ear in chat tonight ! It really helps just having people who understand, will listen & encourage you, or even answer questions you have. BYW was your wife's name Cindy? I believe you have 2 beautiful girls!! It's HARD raising them alone-I'll pray God gives you extra strength & courage!
At 9:48pm on April 7, 2013, JPSwifeCathy said…
Thankyou Dan'!! I'll write more later today--I"m pretty tired :). Cathy
At 12:03pm on April 6, 2013, JPSwifeCathy said…
Hi Dan,
Yes it a HORRIBLE journey we both get to go on--I guess the missin is never gone!!
At 7:54pm on April 5, 2013, gregsgirl said…
Missincin, I totally agree with you. I've been pushing myself to say yes to everything and show up and smile and try to enjoy myself. I've been inviting ppl to things as well and tried to be very social. That's why I gave myself a break tonight. It was just one thing I felt I couldn't quite handle tonight.
At 11:50am on March 31, 2013, JPSwifeCathy said…
Thankyou for saying I was strong-- I don't feel that way but taking care of ALL John"a need was very VERY hard'. Glad he's celebrating EASTER with Jesus & no longer suffers:)
Cathy(misses John!)

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