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Things I've Lost

Posted on February 22, 2015 at 5:32pm 1 Comment

There were so many things my husband loved.


Awards shows.


Music shows.

Things I don't watch anymore.

Glee.  Oscars.  So You Think You Can Dance.  Dancing With The Stars.

I don't watch them because I want to share them with him.  I go to tell him something, even after all this time.   And then... the hurt hits.  My heart hurts.  I remember what I've lost.

After 32 months.  I still get hit in the chest by the pain of…


I'm not Broken... One Year Later...

Posted on June 26, 2013 at 8:58am 5 Comments

I get it now.  I get why people keep telling me how strong I am.  I get why people have expressed admiration for my will to keep moving forward.

I get it.

I'm not broken.

Today is a beautiful day.

Today I honour a man who gave so much, who love so deeply, and who is now at peace.

Today I honour a man who introduced me to more family, who gave me two amazing young men and who gave my older kids an amazing example of what a husband and father should…


I'm Not Suicidal....

Posted on June 11, 2013 at 9:15am 8 Comments

I don’t want to die.

I want very much to live.

You need to understand this, in order to read this post.


I want a HAPPY, FULL life.

So… now that you understand that… lets talk about what’s going on.

I want to hurt myself.

I think about taking a blade and cutting across the skin, drawing blood, and creating an intense pain.

I think about this frequently.

Usually while I’m fighting tears.

Why? you ask.  Never…


10 Months Today

Posted on April 26, 2013 at 8:43am 3 Comments

10 months today.
It seems so long yet so short... how could our lives have changed so drastically in less than a year??? Forever loved, forever missed, never forgotten. We miss you more and more each day Mark. Your kids are all so amazing. They were blessed to have been raised by you. Not a day goes by that we don't think about you, miss you,…

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At 12:04am on September 15, 2013, sunchaser said…

Hi Jane ....  It's GREAT to meet someone from lower mainland Vancouver!!!!  I've been to Squamish many times during the past.  Thanks for inviting me as your friend.  Love the members on here, but nice to know there is some of us Canadians on here as well.

Hope you are doing well?  Please keep in contact.

At 1:56pm on April 2, 2013, LostCactus (WoodyC) said…

HI momtofourkids, nice to meet you in chat for the first time, sorry for your loss. Hope finding WV will bring peace and comfort as you meet folks who know the journey you are on. If you need to talk then let it all out, it's the best way I know to keep from staying on the emotional roller coaster. Keep Smiling... 

At 7:43am on September 18, 2012, LaurieR said…

Hello momtofourkids. I am so sorry for your loss.  I never really know what to say but welcome to  this site.  It is so very hard for people who have not lost their significant other to understand what your going through.  People here all have lost their love and understand. I am from Saskatchewan.  I lost my husband Easter Sunday 2012.  The people on this site made my life bearable in those early days.  I just want to say that it does get better, slowly, very,very slowly but there is hope. If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me.  I will do my best to help you.  I will send you a friend request, if you wish you can accept.



At 6:48pm on September 11, 2012, Joyce said…

Welcome momtofourkids: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".

At 8:05am on September 10, 2012, kimkirt (KK) said…

momtofourkids - I am so sorry for you loss and the reason that brings you here. I hope that you are able to find support and hope among so many people who truly understand. This site has been lifesaving for me to be able to talk to people who get it. Hugs!

At 11:26am on September 7, 2012, Dianne in Nevada said…

I'm so very sorry for your loss, momtofourkids, but glad you found us. There is caring support and friendship here. Here's a good place to start: Basic Site Info

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