"Thanks, Elle. You're right, of course. My husband, although he would be disappointed in her current choices would love our daughter like crazy no matter what. I know we will get through this and come out stronger on the other…"
"There is so much comfort in knowing others are going through similar feelings and experiences at similar stages in this journey, thank you all for sharing! Many times I have felt like I was losing my mind only to find that others are…"
"OK, I thought this would be easier by now. I'm coming up on the 2nd anniversary of my husband's death, and it is kicking my butt! To be fair, most of the time I can identify that the raw, awful, soul-scorching pain from the…"
"Hi Debbie, I too wondered if I "should" be in this group as my husband had only 4 months from diagnosis to death. It certainly didn't feel long term! But, I have found commonalities here that have nothing to do with…"
"Oh Lord, did I need to find this today! A sweet co-worker has several times compared her divorce to being widowed and today I wanted to bite her head off! I am approaching the 2nd anniversary of my love's death, and am sort…"
My husband died in August 2009 after a short, fierce battle with cancer. We'd been married 22 years and had kids age 14 and 17 at the time of his death. I felt like a part of my soul had been amputated and have worked…"
"Debbie, so very sorry you and your kids are going through this, it is brutal! All those dreadful "firsts"; I really think all you can do that first year is get through it and survive. Only with the perspective of a second…"
"This is my second Father's Day without my husband and it is so easy to feel sorry for myself and our kids (16 and 19). Cancer stole my father from me and now my kids' Daddy from them. I worked really hard today to stay out of…"
I appreciate your kind words..we are getting hit with so many brutal anniversaries and important dates this summer, it is completely overwhelming. My husband loved summer and the warm weather - he kept saying, I just need to get through this winter and I will be so happy. It saddens me so much that he did not live to experience one nice "warm" day!
MsMaryMac, Thanks for joining us here and sharing your experiences and ideas. Tell me, what kind of support have you had? Are you active on Facebook? What do you hope to find here? We'll try to get it together for you and with your help!