"Ran across this one while doing laundry and reading a book of poetry my daughter gave me. Seemed to "strike close to home" for me:
A Moment Away, by Debra Digioia
"Why are you in heaven,
when I am down here?
"A bit different here. I followed the teaching of my Catholic faith regarding disposition of "cremains" which state:
"The cremated remains of a body should be treated with the same respect given to the human body from which they…"
"Thanks for that info on the Opal, Jwick. Wasn't previously aware that the Opal signified love and loyalty, though it was both my birthstone and Mickey's. Might account for our 52-year marriage. Take care.
Absolutely nothing you do that brings comfort and helps you along your grief journey is "crazy". Please drop that term from your descriptive vocabulary. And keep that late-night light burning.
Looks like we match on length of marriage (52 for us) and date of spousal loss (Mickey died the first week of '16.) BIG adjustment; we each progress at our own pace. You seem to have made a good start, keep…"
"Condolences on the death of your beloved spouse.
There is no "right" or "wrong" when adjusting to the death of a spouse (or any other loved one). Do not allow anyone to tell you otherwise.
Personally, I prefer to keep…"
"We both seem to be on that 2.5 year mark, KayeL. Whatever routine works for you, keep it up. We each have our coping/adapting mechanisms. I think any of us would do anything to bring our spouses back, but it's like King David…"
"Condolences on the loss of your Patty, Sean. We who have lost a mate have, IMHO, have lost a part of ourselves. May you have adequate support to navigate the changes and adjustments that lie ahead.
"Seems to be more input from the widows than the widowers on moving/keeping the departed spouses "stuff". (To be expected; there are more of you than there are of us.) For my part, after Mickey died I knew I didn't want to…"
"I have to agree with laurajay's comments on protecting our own health and safety, though I realize that rational decisions do not always easily in the throes of grief. IMHO, our departed loved ones would not want us endangering our…"
"Quite an intro, Denise. I can identify with the part of the long wait for the funeral home people. Sadly, we can't go around the grieving process, but must travel through it, and everyone travels at a different pace. Peace be…"
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