"It has helped me to read the postings about "friends". My late husband, Gary, and I were very close to a couple...the woman and I called eachother "sister" and Gary and the man had breakfast together weekly...we socialized…"
"Its almost six months for me since Gary died. The grief is shifting but I still know I am not through it by any means. I have a sense of anixety all the time. I try to do all that is suggested: go to counselling, a grief…"
"Hi Wendy- saw your post and wanted to let you know I am sending out a warm hug to you right now and praying that your suffering will be eased. I have not had any signs really from my beloved. I think that other people have alot of…"
"I am so sorry for the losses I am reading about...lost my husband to pancreatic cancer in Feb. 2012. I still cry most every day and feel a big hole in my heart but the weight of the grief isn't quite as heavy. Friends and family…"
"Its a little over four months for me and I am still very much grieving...it does ebb and flow but my baseline feelings are sadness, loneliness and anxiety. I don't like feeling this way and worry it won't get better in spite of what…"
"I havn't written for awhile...lost my husband to pancreatic cancer on Feb. 4, 2010. It was so hard to watch his suffering from the treatment and from the cancer. I don't think there's an answer to why this happened and I…"
"I want to check in...havn't been here for awhile. On May 4th, it will be three months. The heaviness of the grief and the severe anxiety have modified, but the grief is still very present and I miss Gary so much. Its spring…"
"My husband passed away on Feb. 4th...I am experiencing a strong anxiety in my body and mind , especially in the morning, but the crying is less frequent. Has anyone exerienced strong, very uncomfortable anxiety?"
"I joined a gym and am taking an exercise class three mornings a week..also take a zumba class...get up, walk the dog, read, do some volunteer work, go to church, see friends...sounds good but the big pit of sadness in my center, accompanies me...its…"
"Hi Lauking..so sorry for your loss. I am glad you found this site. Support from others who truly understand your grief does help. I am seeing a grief counselor (through Hospice) and will soon start going to a grief support…"
"I just want to express my thanks to this group as everyone is sharing close to the same newness of grief...it helps me to read about others going through the pain I am experiencing. My husband died from pancreatic cancer...finally stopped…"
"I am at three weeks...Gary died on Feb. 4th. The hardest part for me is this deep ,physical ache that is in my body that I can cover with activities but remains underneath. It lifts a little sometimes, mainly in the evening...then…"
Hi Wendy- saw your post and wanted to let you know I am sending out a warm hug to you right now and praying that your suffering will be eased. I have not had any signs really from my beloved. I think that other people have alot of opinions about what we should be experiencing or feeling that are BS. they want you to feel comforted and are distressed when you are not. they often are trying to deal with how you are feeling and want you to "get better". very common, even amongst those who really care deeply for us. they can even get judgemental about it. they just do not get it. glad you are writing about what you are feeling. we are here for you. bear
Wendy, Remember one day at a time. I miss my hubby terribly everyday as well. Just breathe and you will be OK. We can do this, we have to; they wouldn't want us to give up. Sending hugs your way...hang in there.
I'm truly sorry to hear of your recent loss. I know all too well the pain you feel daily, I think we all do as we all have been there. I lost my husband last month so I can only say that it will get better day by day. Grieve the way YOU want to not the way others may want you to, it's all apart of the healing process....We can do this! Know you are not alone....Sending hugs your way.
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I'm so sorry for your loss Wendy, but I'm glad you've joined us. This journey we are all on can be a long and bumpy one, but please remember none of us need travel it alone. You will find great comfort here, I know I have.
Wendy, I'm so very sorry for the loss that brings you here, but I'm glad you've found us. I've found incredible support here, and I hope that you will too. When you have a moment. take a look at the groups - they'll connect you with people in similar circumstances to your own. Wishing you peace on this terrible journey. ~ Carolynne