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Wendy J commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"Its almost six months for me since Gary died. The grief is shifting but I still know I am not through it by any means. I have a sense of anixety all the time. I try to do all that is suggested: go to counselling, a grief…"
Bear left a comment for Wendy J
"Hi Wendy- saw your post and wanted to let you know I am sending out a warm hug to you right now and praying that your suffering will be eased. I have not had any signs really from my beloved. I think that other people have alot of…"
Wendy J commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"I thought there were "signs" in the first few months, but havn't felt any presence lately. I still talk to him though...it usually makes me feel better."
Wendy J commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"I am so sorry for the losses I am reading about...lost my husband to pancreatic cancer in Feb. 2012. I still cry most every day and feel a big hole in my heart but the weight of the grief isn't quite as heavy. Friends and family…"
Wendy J commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"Its a little over four months for me and I am still very much grieving...it does ebb and flow but my baseline feelings are sadness, loneliness and anxiety. I don't like feeling this way and worry it won't get better in spite of what…"
Wendy J commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"I havn't written for awhile...lost my husband to pancreatic cancer on Feb. 4, 2010. It was so hard to watch his suffering from the treatment and from the cancer. I don't think there's an answer to why this happened and I…"
Suz left a comment for Wendy J
"Wendy,
I just wanted to be sure I connected with you because Jud died of Pancreatic Cancer, too. It's a hard illness, isn't it? I may have already written. My brain isn't working too well!
Suz"
Wendy J commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"I want to check in...havn't been here for awhile. On May 4th, it will be three months. The heaviness of the grief and the severe anxiety have modified, but the grief is still very present and I miss Gary so much. Its spring…"
Wendy J commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"My husband passed away on Feb. 4th...I am experiencing a strong anxiety in my body and mind , especially in the morning, but the crying is less frequent. Has anyone exerienced strong, very uncomfortable anxiety?"
Wendy J commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"I joined a gym and am taking an exercise class three mornings a week..also take a zumba class...get up, walk the dog, read, do some volunteer work, go to church, see friends...sounds good but the big pit of sadness in my center, accompanies me...its…"
Wendy J commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"Bellabear...my husband passed away from pancreatic cancer on Feb. 4, 2012. My pain remains fresh and deep. Hope we can support eachother"
Wendy J commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"Hi Lauking..so sorry for your loss. I am glad you found this site. Support from others who truly understand your grief does help. I am seeing a grief counselor (through Hospice) and will soon start going to a grief support…"
Wendy J commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"I just want to express my thanks to this group as everyone is sharing close to the same newness of grief...it helps me to read about others going through the pain I am experiencing. My husband died from pancreatic cancer...finally stopped…"
Wendy J commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"I am at three weeks...Gary died on Feb. 4th. The hardest part for me is this deep ,physical ache that is in my body that I can cover with activities but remains underneath. It lifts a little sometimes, mainly in the evening...then…"
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- At 6:33pm on June 24, 2012,
Bear said… Hi Wendy- saw your post and wanted to let you know I am sending out a warm hug to you right now and praying that your suffering will be eased. I have not had any signs really from my beloved. I think that other people have alot of opinions about what we should be experiencing or feeling that are BS. they want you to feel comforted and are distressed when you are not. they often are trying to deal with how you are feeling and want you to "get better". very common, even amongst those who really care deeply for us. they can even get judgemental about it. they just do not get it. glad you are writing about what you are feeling. we are here for you. bear
- At 9:03pm on April 19, 2012,
Suz said… Wendy,
I just wanted to be sure I connected with you because Jud died of Pancreatic Cancer, too. It's a hard illness, isn't it? I may have already written. My brain isn't working too well!
Suz
- At 9:42am on February 25, 2012,
sherwen said… Dear Wendy J, so sorry for your loss and that you have to be here, but it is comforting to know we are not alone on this journey. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
- At 10:02pm on February 22, 2012,
kenslove said… Wendy, Remember one day at a time. I miss my hubby terribly everyday as well. Just breathe and you will be OK. We can do this, we have to; they wouldn't want us to give up. Sending hugs your way...hang in there.
- At 10:58pm on February 21, 2012, kenslove said…
Wendy,
I'm truly sorry to hear of your recent loss. I know all too well the pain you feel daily, I think we all do as we all have been there. I lost my husband last month so I can only say that it will get better day by day. Grieve the way YOU want to not the way others may want you to, it's all apart of the healing process....We can do this! Know you are not alone....Sending hugs your way.
- At 9:40pm on February 14, 2012,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… Welcome to our community.... I hope we can keep you company on your journey ahead. Please look around a bit and read this basic introduction to the site. You can find more information about how the community works under "Help!" in the navigation bar, and we'll send you a few newsletters with tips and ideas in the coming weeks. If you need a little more help, go to the Home page and look in the right hand column to see the link to a "Help Desk" form.
We all use the site differently, but we hope you feel comfortable sharing among us in the coming days, weeks, and months.
Big hug!
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- At 8:03pm on February 12, 2012,
Lisa (lost) Lamb said…
I'm so sorry for your loss Wendy, but I'm glad you've joined us. This journey we are all on can be a long and bumpy one, but please remember none of us need travel it alone. You will find great comfort here, I know I have.
- At 9:36am on February 12, 2012,
smit09 said… Wendy J: oh sweet lady, my heart goes out to you! we've all been there, and we'll all be here when you're ready! May you find strength within-- today, and onward.
- At 8:48am on February 12, 2012,
Wanderer530 (Bernie) said… Heartfelt HUGS for you Wendy! WV will be here when you get back. bernie
- At 9:51pm on February 10, 2012,
carolynne said… Wendy, I'm so very sorry for the loss that brings you here, but I'm glad you've found us. I've found incredible support here, and I hope that you will too. When you have a moment. take a look at the groups - they'll connect you with people in similar circumstances to your own. Wishing you peace on this terrible journey. ~ Carolynne
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