"Surgery completed all the tumor and cyst was taken out. Josh is doing great no deficits it is a gangliocytoma, rare and benign! The doctor said they don't grow back. Thank you all for praying for my family I so appreciate your understanding and…"
"The results of the post-surgical MRI came back and surgeon missed the tumor. It is still in my son-in-laws brain and he has to be reopened. The surgeon did not get any of it out he took out healthy brain tissue. I just can't believe my kids…"
"Thank you all for the prayers and well wishes. My son-in-law is awake and asking for a cheeseburger! The tumor looked,so much like brain tissue that it is highly unlikely that it is cancerous. A biopsy has been sent to the Mayo Clinic. Josh has full…"
"Katydid, thank you. It is so very hard to watch them go through this I wish I could take it away. She is 20 years old, 21 in October. Way to young to be going through all these trials. She had a miscarriage last year and now has a healthy beautiful…"
"My family lost my husband and their father January 2011 this past week my son-in-law had a seizure on Wed. After a CT then MRI a brain tumor was found. He is 24, a police officer, just bought a house a house and 2 months ago a a little baby boy, my…"
So sorry you are here. My husband was 55 when he died of cancer Jan 2, 2011. I was 46 I work as a nurse and he died in the hospital I work at. I hate going into the rooms he spent his last days in but, it is getting better. I had a huge…"
"Before Wayne died we had a huge argument about getting all utilities in both our names. I wish we had not argued but everything is in both our names and I am now able to make changes and get repairs done. Our bank account was put under a trust…"
Sounds like a busy family, with things to look forward to. My kids are both back in the swing of their lives which makes me really happy, so hard to focus on the reality that is my life now without my husband. We went through 17 month battle, chemo/rad/surgery..only to end up on chemo again, just to eek out a bit of time. Was terrible from the beginning, total loss of lifestyle almost immediately. Couple of really good weeks before esophagectomy, where my husband filled with hope thought all of this shit he had just endured may have paid off. He was a physician, knew the reality too much. Funny how those oncologists/surgeons propose treatments, I always felt like it is all just a poisonous witches brew....he endured so much, I know he figured he had to try for us....in hind sight I am not sure we would have chosen the same path. I have been having difficulty fitting back into our old life, just not working, honestly most happy at home....maybe becoming a bit of a hermit for now, just feels easier. Push myself out so as not to become a complete recluse! So sorry for the loss of your husband, it is nice to meet you!
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Thank you for the friend request, and if you need anything just let me know. We are all here for the same reason. We need time to heal with others that truly understand us. This is a great place and you will make wonderful friends. Welcome again!
Welcome alloit12: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I know you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
Hi alliot12, I'm so sorry for your loss, but so glad you found your way to WV. This is a great community to find friendship, comfort and understanding. I know I would of never made it through this past year with out this place. Welcome, we are here for you when you need us.
I am so sorry for your loss yet I am glad you found us. You will find some great help here on the site and the relationships you will build with all of the great people here. We are all on the other side of life now and only we can really understand how you feel. I am on chat quiet often and it is scary and overwhelming at times in the beginning. I would like to offer a bit of assistance when you are ready use the chat room. 1. I always advise you watch for a bit, the room gets busy sometimes and hard to follow at first. 2. You will see some joking and even laughter, you will also see tears and breakdowns. The people here are here to support and be supported by peers. 3. Looking at the chat you will see that the left window has a sliding bar that tells you who is online (they may be on another part of the site though) 4. If you click on a name in the side bar this should open up a private chat or PC as we call it. 5. I f you receive a PC a red # will show under the main lobby with the name and icon of the person it is from or if you sent it to someone 6. Your first entry: This is hit or miss, it really depends on when you jump in if lots of folks are chatting you can easily get missed. I recommend just saying Hi I am new and give whatever info you want (hi I am Arnie From NJ and today I am 3 months and 3 days out) this way if others are from NJ they may want to know more. 7. BE READY: Ok once you do go into the lobby be ready as the questions are needed and they are sometimes gentile, sometimes the questions fly at you. Please take your time here as if this is new for you this may open you up emotionally, and it is normal to feel this and from what i am told a needed part of trying to begin to live again. 8. Most people on the chat are women as of now but the men that are involved are very respectful and sometimes fun. 9. Remember almost no one knew each other until they came here. 10. Good luck and I sent you a friend request, lets face it near or far we need support, and with so many from around the world there is almost always someone on. ALSO using internet explorer is problematic with chat so Firefox appears to be the best..
I hope this long winded letter helps you in the beginning and again SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.
I'm so very sorry for your loss, alliot12, but glad you found us. There is caring support and friendship here. Join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations. I look forward to getting to know you here.