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solamente mio
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  • Phoenixville, PA
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solamente mio commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Terry-  I saw your post come into my e-mail last week and as I read it, I just said oh do  I understand. There have been those times when something inside has said well, so much for grow old with me , guess you'll be doing that…"
Oct 17
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"This was such an affirmation for me on this day.  After having lunch with colleagues, and being told I'll get better ( once again ), it so confirmed what I've said over and over to others ; don't try to fix it, be there to…"
Sep 29
solamente mio commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"I can identify with Bearzeke myself now having our small farm to manage and still work   its been 21 months for me and another person who lost her daughter told me the second year is harder.  Who could believe it when youre in that…"
Sep 22
solamente mio commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Seashell -  I read your comment earlier and I could identify.  I also miss my husband and the day to day that was our life. but yes, as you , I've  grown used to the empty spaces where he was- the whole bed shared with the 2…"
Mar 31
solamente mio commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Somehow I didn't think this month would be that bad even though I advised others that the period from October to December wouldn't be the best.  I'm coming up on the one year point on 12/13. It seems ok and then something crosses…"
Dec 6, 2016
solamente mio commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I call these times my paybacks. You seem to go along and are functioning - working, handling estate matters, cleaning up..... but now it's payback. all of the sudden this sad sense of melancholy and mourning has moved back in for a bit. You can…"
Oct 20, 2016
solamente mio commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Sandfly - In alignment with quantum physic, energy cant be created or destroyed, it changes. Our loved ones spirits didn't just disappear and cease to exist. In many instances, they are adapting and trying to understand their change as well. I…"
Oct 18, 2016
solamente mio commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Nardly: No, you are not the only one with such vivid experiences. I can attest to the same - actually a total of seven that were sequential and cumulative in nature all in a logical progression. They were within the first 3-4 months since my…"
Jul 28, 2016
Flower left a comment for solamente mio
"Hi Denise, Thank you for reaching out, Iam so sorry for your loss. My husband was fighting cancer for four and a half years but the end was very sudden. I think the numbness is wearing off now and the reality is kicking in!"
Jul 8, 2016
solamente mio replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion US: MID-ATLANTIC in the group Connect with others in your area
"HI Flower- I am the post that shows I live in Northern Chester county but have a mailing address of Phoenixville. It will be 7 months for me on 07/13. Feel free to contact me as someone who knows where you are at on this journey. Solo mi ( Denise…"
Jul 8, 2016
solamente mio commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Nardly- the hauting can be devastating.  Its been 6 months for me and I can still see where I found him outside, what time it was, and what I saw-  those eyes I used to look in to but he wasn't there any more- the hand you held…"
Jun 23, 2016
solamente mio commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Thank You all for the hugs and thoughts. The storm has passed for today , well at least for the moment. I made a point yesterday of going over to the only tangible cite I have a left- a grave. So I checked on the wildflowers I planted there, sat…"
Jun 23, 2016
solamente mio commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Ive had a big setback and today is the day.  Been doing okay for 6 months with the usual ups and downs.  But today both my soul and my heart hurt so much. I'm  so angry just so tired.  Tired of being strong, tired of being…"
Jun 22, 2016
solamente mio commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank You both for your comments.  It truly helps to hear others say, yeah it's what it is at this point. You are both right in that guilt is a pain in the ass as it wants to be your contaant friend, and Laurajay you are right giref has…"
Apr 22, 2016
solamente mio commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"happilycat - I can totally idetify with you as I too have a workshop and barn with equipment to figure out what should happen there.  Yeah, it all has memory and being where we all are at this point in time, makes these decissions even…"
Apr 22, 2016
solamente mio commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"I dont get a chance much to get into the village with coming home from work and doing all that comes with that scenario.  However, I see the comments as they come into my email and I concur that it so reassuring to see that others are feeling…"
Apr 20, 2016

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At 7:19pm on July 8, 2016, Flower said…
Hi Denise, Thank you for reaching out, Iam so sorry for your loss.
My husband was fighting cancer for four and a half years but the end was very sudden. I think the numbness is wearing off now and the reality is kicking in!
At 3:08am on April 19, 2016, Tink said…

I am sorry for your loss, and your need to be here. I do think it is helpful hearing other people's stories. It is so new for you and to have been sudden must add to that pain. My husband was ill for a few years before he passed, but I still was not prepared for when it finally happened. I think I was numb for the first 6 or more months, just going on auto pilot. It just did not seem real, and it still does not now some days after over 2 years. I hope you may have family by your side to help you through it all. It is difficult making decisions and taking care of things on your own. I hope today may be one of your good days.

At 2:12am on April 1, 2016, LifesAJourney said…

Solamente mio, welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You will find caring support and friendship here. 

Here is the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you will find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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