In all honesty - after my husband died- much to my horror, I realized that my weight had skyrocketed to almost 300lbs. At 5'4 that wasn't a good look. I took it slow...about 1.5 yrs in I was,…"
"I have no desire to date or anything else. That's just me. What I did do was scour meetup.com and find groups that interested me and started getting involved! I found an awesome womens outdoor adventuring group. I have…"
"I don't want to date. Sure, I miss the companionship, I think we all do. However, I don't have the desire or energy to seek anything out.
I did join a dating site...was for us 'older' people...I don't think…"
"My trip was lovely! I had an amazing time meeting people, seeing the beautiful animals and rain forest....I spent time on the beach....ziplining through canyons, rappelling down waterfalls.
I 'celebrated' the 4th year of his…"
"NoLonger, if you have been to a Camp then it would be possible for you to start a local group.
There is no active group in that area.
You should just PM Dianne.
I will let her know you're inquiring
In the meantime - always…"
"Being a caregiver certainly isn't for the weak.
Throughout this journey I was the upbeat one, the glass half full one. Even though, the day we found out his cancer was back, and had spread, I knew how this was going to end. Lung…"
"I found that to be true with groups.
This May I will be traveling to Costa Rica...I am using airbnb for my accommodations and will book activities as I see fit. Since I am renting an apartment I can cook and prepare food.…"
"In May, it will be 4 years since my husband died.
Since then, I don't think much of my life hasn't changed!
I was blessed to be able, at a little over a year, go to Camp Widow in San Diego. I came away from that experience feeling…"
"I am almost done planning a trip to Costa Rica at the end of May. 9 days of doing whatever I want! Last year I traveled on the anniversary of his death and it was good. So I decided to do it again! Cuba sounds amazing!"
Time does indeed sneak up on us now. The holidays now, for me, are just another day. The kids are grown, I've moved out of state, and it's just not important to me any more. The only day that is, is our anniversary.…"
"Even though I went 5 hours away... I left everything/everyone.
I did question myself through the whole process. What if I don't like it, what if I hate my house...what if I don't make any friends... Then I thought, whats the worst…"
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I have decided to change this up because, I am not the same person I was when I first came here.
You may not believe it now, but trust me when I say that you will not always feel as awful as you do now. It's hard to believe that you will ever smile again, or feel an ounce of joy. I'm here to tell you that you will.
You will learn that life, while different, can be good. You will learn about a whole new you. You will learn about a YOU that wasn't there before.
Don't ever be afraid that you will forget your person. They are woven into us. Every breath we take, they are there. Every thought we have, they are there.
Please don't worry about the opinions of others. Do what feels right for you. Talk about your love. Never stay quiet because it may make others uncomfortable. Be authentic in your grief, just as you were in your love.
Most of all, be gentle with yourself. We are survivors of a trauma so great, and so deep, that it's a miracle we come through it at all!
Every day is a new and beautiful day... full of HOPE! Cause HOPE MATTERS!
Thank you for your kind words. I am heading down on Friday too and will look for you to introduce myself. I was half bald until recently as well. My daughters and I shaved half of our heads in solidarity for my husband who was going through chemo. I am a short red head. Looking forward to meeting you.
Thank you!! I will do the same. I probably won't register until it gets closer. Just need to see what I have going on with the kids, but I am really thinking/planning to go and would like to help. Hope we can meet.
sueprnova - I just sent you a friend request but I would also like to send you a private message. I think we have to be friends to do that. I'm not very good with this site. Hopefully you will approve my friend request and I can ask your opinion on something. Thanks!!