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Hi everyone,
I am glad to have found a site such as this because not everyone can understand or offer advice like one who's been through it!

I was in a relationship for two years to the lovely Carlos and then we married in 1998. We have a son who is 14 years old now. We spent 15 lovely years together before God called his angel home. I am blessed by God to have allowed me to borrow him for a while. He was a sweet, kind and loving man, father and friend. I never thought I'd have to be without him! I thought there would never be a day that I'd stop crying! It took me until this year to say the phrase late husband! I didn't want to date because I felt that I was cheating on him. I felt very much married for a while after his passing. God has blessed and protected us through it all and I am THANKFUL! Now I know what the phrase means when I was told "TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME" I truly had to live by those words!

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At 9:34pm on September 11, 2013, RustyBike said…


Interesting to hear someone else with the same sleep problems. I have the EXACT same sleep schedule now. I haven't slept alone in 21 years, aside from business travel or something like that. I miss the physicalness like no one's business. The simple feeling of her presence. The unconscious reaching over and grabbing a hand, or resting a hand on her leg... stuff like that.

I am keeping myself busy, that's for sure, by playing a ton of music with friends, camping with friends, rock climbing with friends... but in the end, I come home alone and wake up alone and it's killing me. 

Thank you for leaving a comment and thank you for confirming for me I'm not the only one in the world experiencing this. 


At 5:29am on September 10, 2013, teebug said…
Your welcome and I'm glad to know somebody understands because I thought it was just me lol. I want to love again but I've found just as you have that it's very difficult. Things and people have really changed over the years and its harder to trust theses days. I'll just keep believing in love and not let one or two apples spoil the bunch for everyone lol. Thanks for your input WendyAnn! God bless and hopefully we will find more answers to our questions soon.
At 6:20pm on September 9, 2013, wendyann said…

Hi teebug

Thanks for reachin out . There is much I can relate to in your comments .I was with my husband for nearly 20 years, married 14. You may be right about waiting to tell about being a widow- food for thought at the least...I totally relate to just not being in a relationship and loving time with and by myself. Hey I AM damned good company I 've been realizing! I also realize that while i am a catch, it is not easy to find connections with people like it used to be years ago...not a big surprise but a bit depressing. I am optimistic however.. I try to focus on what I DO have each day.. some days it comes easier than others.. 

At 6:06pm on September 7, 2013, judy said…

Hi Teebug,

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.


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