"We had a memorial service at our church. I hate funerals where the family has to sit and look at the dead person while the service is going on. I think that is so cruel. I had pictures of our life together and a portrait of Roger. He was cremated so…"
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zztech commented on AEDforever (Ali)'s blog post Certificate of Life
"I think we all should do that! Good idea. "
zztech replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Littleblue- I'm sorry for your loss of your sweetheart. This is a safe place to come to vent your feelings, frustrations and whatever else. I wish I could give you a hug. But just know you are in my prayers."
zztech commented on Susan J's event Our 5th Anniversary
"Like Ali said, smile through your tears and remember the wonderful time you had, however short it was. I hope you can have a good day, maybe do something you two would have done together if you can manage it. Take care."
zztech commented on cee's event One Year Today
"I am so sorry for your loss. Mine is coming up in December. I hope you can get through the day. I will be thinking of you."
zztech commented on Emy's blog post Can I Love Again?
"My Pastor told me this week that maybe I should find someone to spend time with since I am so lonely. I find other men to be repulsive. Only my sweetie will do for me. I can't imagine anyone being as nice to me as he was. I think I will…"
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"What a sweet story. Not everyone understands these things, but we do."
zztech replied to PrincessWidowGirl's discussion The illusion of Closure
"That is awsome. I feel so much better hearing this. I posted it on Facebook too. I hope my friends and family will watch it."
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"When someone asks how I am I tell them, honestly. If its a bad day, I say so. If not, then I say so. I find it way too exhausting to try to hide. If they cant take the truth, then they didn't really want to know. I have to protect myself…"
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"It has helped me. I was having a really bad week. I miss him so much. I was wondering if others get these visitations or if it is just a one time thing. I know we grab on to things and want more. Its just so hard to realize that he isn't…"
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I had a visit from my Sweetheart
Posted on October 8, 2012 at 9:13pm 7 Comments 3 Likes
The other day I was taking a nap and I started dreaming I guess. The bedroom door opened and someone walked in. I knew instantly that it was Roger. I wasn't afraid. He put a blanket over me, just like he would have done. Then he laid down next to me. I could feel him right next to me. It was very real. Then I looked up and I could see his face as in a mirror. Only half his face could be seen. I spoke to him and said: Thank you for visiting me. I really needed it. He said "I know- It's ok,…
Continue Alone-ness is the worst part.
Posted on October 2, 2012 at 4:12pm 4 Comments 0 Likes
I lost my husband December 15, 2011. That was the day my world as I knew it came to and end. Since then, I have gone through the usual greiving experiences I guess. I went to a Counselor for several months just to keep myself from falling into a depression. I did not, thankfully. But, this process called grief is still a process I don't want to go through. I have gone back to work a couple of weeks ago. That seemed to be the last big hurdle I had to cross.
But now as the days pass…
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- At 9:40pm on October 7, 2012,
Mariposa said… Hi zztech. I am sorry for your loss and your struggle is one that all of us here are going through. I am glad that you found some of my posts helpful. Thank you for the friend request. I wish you strength, healing, peace and courage. Mariposa
- At 9:53pm on September 27, 2012,
Joyce said… Welcome zztech: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It"
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