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I was curious about "Go On" after reading a review of it online somewhere several weeks ago.  The pilot was supposed to show after some sports event and I stayed up to watch, only to wind up seeing NASCAR instead.  Didn't watch much TV after that!

I did see the pilot the following week and was decidedly underwhelmed.  I'm not a Matthew Perry fan to begin with so that may color my perception of this show.  I found it rather unrealistic with the exception of the lengths that the character he plays goes to to avoid being alone with his feelings and his grief, which was spot on.  The manic/cutesy behavior that attended it however was not realistic in the least.  But then I'm not male, I don't have a lot of money or a high powered job, and there is very little about me that could be seen as either manic or cutesy 90% of the time so this again may color my perception of the entire business.

The support group scenes were trite and the type of advice that was given I didn't find to be appropriate for those who are grieving.  My first response to such a group would be to walk out the door and not return.  I did attend a general grief group for about eight weeks that was offered by Life with Cancer and found it only slightly helpful.  Grief groups with other grieving widows/widowers were more useful to me and I would argue that to be authentic, the show should be set in one of those.  But this is TV, and this is not reality, so the background/setting stands.  I doubt that there would be little to laugh at in a bereavement group with all widows, although I will say that more than one evening was spent laughing over the dark jokes we told to get through the evenings.

I'm four and a half years out and I would say the worst, unmanageable aspects of my grief seem to be over.  Life goes on whether I want it to or not.  I hate being widowed more and more as time passes and do best when I am not focused on how deeply I hate what my life has become and what my future could possibly be if things don't change.

I'll watch this MEH comedy again on Wednesday and write more.  It was pretty forgettable and I didn't make any effort to tune in again after the pilot, so that should tell you something.

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Comment by Soaring Spirits on October 4, 2012 at 5:41pm

I love the diversity of perspectives this exercise has revealed. Thank you for playing along and for sharing your thoughts with the community!  I just posted the "master post" so you can see the links to what the others have written so far.



Comment by honeys(puddin) on October 2, 2012 at 7:18am

I watched 3 episodes yesterday.  I like Matthew Perry but the show was weak.  Some things I related to but most I did not.  I will continue to watch it but on DVR so I can whiz by the things that irk me:)

Comment by Morgana (Janet) on October 1, 2012 at 8:27pm

@Alan, we have all lost a spouse but that does not mean that we cannot enjoy watching things or the TV, including a show about grief.  Question is "Have you  watchted it?"  I haven't but will watch the first four episodes tommor and make a point to watch it tomorrow night.  Who knows, we could all gain something or not by watching it.  We never know.  Life is to short to be synical (SP) about things.

I think it is called wake up smell the roses and be thankful for what you have. It took me awhile to do that but I am glad I did.  I cannot wait to see what the next chapter in my life is about but it will be interesting and a new adventure.

Peace and hope to you.

Comment by MEE MEE on October 1, 2012 at 7:51pm

I like it!  One part that struck me was......he came home and it was late.  He went into his bedroom....looked at the empty bed......walked past it an went to his recliner, curled up and slept there.  I HATE going to bed.....I stay up until I'm exhausted and then I go to bed.  It's terrible.  It's been over 4 years since John died.  You'd think this would go away by now.....nope.  I miss him every moment of every day!  Getting back to the show, I think it's funny and I think John would get a kick out of it!

Comment by AlanRRT on October 1, 2012 at 7:30pm

I haven't watched it, and don't intend to.  Guy loses his wife and joins a support group?  My life has now become a sitcom.  This has to be the worst premise for a sitcom since Hogan's Heroes, a comedy about a Nazi POW camp.

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