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Only a soul knows when it will return home, and when it decides to return home, nothing can stop it. Until then, nothing can make it return home. This may sound strange because so many forms of death, such as illness and violence, appear undesirable to us, but what your soul wants and what your personality wants are not always the same, unless they are aligned. My adopted Sioux uncle spoke of the “other side camp” where we travel after death. When I ask him about it, he would answer with a story, as he often did. One of them was about a relative (he saw all people as relatives) whose death was deeply grieved. He described him as walking up a ridge toward the setting sun. There is much wailing and cries of “He’s going! He’s going!” When he reaches the top, he turns his back to the sun and waves goodbye a last time, and then he turns toward the sun again and disappears over the ridge. A great cry goes up, “He’s gone! He’s gone!” On the other side of the ridge another great cry goes up, “He’s coming! He’s coming!”

We come from love and we return to love. What we do in between is the substance of a life. In my opinion, the purpose of every life is now to create authentic power – to align your personality with your soul – and thereby give the gifts that you were born to give. Our gifts are many, and the only thing between us and giving them is fear. Creating authentic power is learning to distinguish love from fear inside you and choosing love no matter what is happening inside you or outside of you. This requires practice. It requires awareness and volition. What else do you have your life for?

I have lived seventy winters in the Earth school, and I am grateful for all of them, even those that were painful. My life did not need to be so difficult – I didn’t know about creating authentic power earlier – but the richness I experience now is a result of taking advantage of opportunities to grow spiritually that each year in the Earth school gave me. We all encounter continual opportunities in the Earth school to grow spiritually – to create authentic power. My greatest joy is using mine wisely and supporting you in using yours wisely.

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Comment by Angie aka Woody's Girl on November 1, 2012 at 6:38pm
Love this post Ali. I've spent many hours since my husband's death reading, contemplating and trying to make sense of the mystery of life and death. Speaking of the image made me flash on a dream (or vision) I had of the silhouette of a man with golden light behind him that I've not been able to forget. Now it makes perfect sense.
Dianne in Nevada thank you for your post as well. I've read The Seat of the Soul and the concept of separating the soul from the personality has brought me a deeper peace. So much so that I was able to celebrate my first wedding anniversary alone with fond memories instead of the agony I was expecting. The amazing part is I can feel his love surrounding me now when for so long he felt so far away. And who knows, tomorrow I could have another meltdown but I'm enjoying my newfound peace while I can. :)
Comment by AEDforever (Ali) on October 28, 2012 at 4:39pm

The powerful thing about this imagery for that is exactly the last thing I saw from my husband..him waving goodbye to us as they rushed him out of the hospital room to the emergency heart cath. So, he was waving goodbye to us, but on the other side..he was being welcomed home.

Comment by AEDforever (Ali) on October 28, 2012 at 4:37pm

Right Diane, its something to ponder.  I'm not sure if i completely believe this, but when i try to think of it from this perspective, i do find some comfort. it doesn't make me miss Paul any less, but i do feel less angry and less of a "victim" that this terrible thing happened "to me".  I am just continuing to question my beliefs and explore some different possibilities.

Comment by Dianne in Nevada on October 28, 2012 at 9:44am

I have the Oprah channel on this morning and her "Best of" show is on Gary Zukav.  When talking to a couple who experienced the loss of a child he explained something that I found interesting … I'll paraphrase ...  Every soul chooses when to come to earth and when to leave. When the soul has accomplished what it came here to do, it leaves – and we need to appreciate the gifts they left with us.  If we look at everyone as a soul who left this earth when it chose – instead of as a personality – it will give us a different perspective. We can then more easily see the gifts this soul offered us during its short stay on this earth. We can reach a point when we'll be grateful that this soul chose to spend time with us.

Kind of hard to wrap my head around totally, but I find comfort in what he said.

Comment by jean on October 26, 2012 at 8:09am

Thanks Dianne.. I can't find my post... so weird.. I thought I posted something here. LOVE This blog, thanks for sharing.

Comment by MsKris12 on October 26, 2012 at 7:44am

What a wonderful visual!

  There is much wailing and cries of “He’s going! He’s going!” When he reaches the top, he turns his back to the sun and waves goodbye a last time, and then he turns toward the sun again and disappears over the ridge. A great cry goes up, “He’s gone! He’s gone!” On the other side of the ridge another great cry goes up, “He’s coming! He’s coming!”

I have read this over and over again, and keep coming back to it! I believe with all my heart that this is what happens when we die.  I have to believe it to get through eachday.

Thanks so much for sharing. 



Comment by kimkirt (KK) on October 26, 2012 at 4:52am

One of the things that comforted me the most when my husband died, was knowing his parents were seeing him again. How wonderful a reunion that must have been, them standing on the backside of that hill going "He's coming, he's coming!" I could even hear his mom's voice in my head going "Steve! What did you do?" Admonishing him like he was a little kid, but always welcoming him with open arms. Yes, he came from love, and he returned to love and walked right into the open arms of his mom who was always quick to hug. Thank you for this post Ali.

Comment by Dianne in Nevada on October 24, 2012 at 4:06am

Jean ... There are some clips on her website of some of the shows. And check out the Soul Pancake tab ... I love those little videos.

Comment by MsKris12 on October 23, 2012 at 11:45am

Love this! 

Comment by jean on October 23, 2012 at 9:51am

Ali, Thank You for this. Love it.. just love this. Will be checking this guy out. :)  I don't get the channel Oprah is on and it seriously bums me out that I'm paying so much for cable and I don't ge this channel.. what the hey, I think it's time I start taking care of these things.... about time!!  LOL

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