Creating Normal After Loss Often Feels Like Climbing A Mountain

Recreating your normal after loss is such a difficult milestone in ones own journey of grief.

Often it looks like a giant mountain and the top seems so high up

And yet at times you feel so small
And so tired
And so overwhelmed
And wonder how will I ever make it to the top

You may not know where to begin
What first step to take
Which piece of this shattered life does one chose first

It takes as long as it takes for someone who is grieving to get to this point

To the point of choosing life again
To the point of embracing life again

One might find themselves looking around and thinking that others “seem to” have it “all together”

and think to themselves why can’t I be at the place in my own journey that they are in theirs?

That’s the struggle

We have difficulty accepting our own journey for what it is: OUR OWN

and we have difficulty not comparing our new normal to the new normal of others

Why can’t I have …
Why isn’t my life …
Why can’t I “seem” happy …

Why, why, why.

Sometimes we found ourselves asking that question so many times.

We fail to see that others are in different places on the mountain than we are and it takes time for us to get to those places

Yet after sometime traveling this journey we find ourselves at this new point in our life

We are standing at the bottom of this mountain looking up,
Wanting to live life again
Wanting to rebuild this life that we now have without our loved one
Wanting to reinvest in life

Looking up we see all the rough edges of this new journey we are embarking on and we are cautious as to weather or not we want to do this

As we start to climb we may also see the beauty of the nature that inhabits this mountain

And if we chose to we just might hear the birds chirping and the sun shining after a long storm

As we continue climbing we realize that creating a new normal after loss is not by any means easy

New normal doesn’t mean that we won’t have more storms to go through or set backs

However it does mean finding purpose in life again

The desire to want to live

Wanting to embrace life for all the time one has left on this earth

Strength to meet these new storms as they come

And the desire to create a new life after loss

These are some of the things that keep us going and climbing this mountain as we create our new normal

All you have to do is take the first step.

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What are some ways you are creating your new normal? In what ways are you reinvesting in life? In what ways would you like to be creating your normal?

Feel free to share in the comments!

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