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This has been a very challenging year. At 5 years out I thought things would be incrementally better. That's not the case. Fallout from IRS tax issues left by my late wife and then financial decisions I made to try and resolve the tax issues only made them worse. As I approach my 59th Birthday I wonder if I'll ever be financially secure again. My new wife of 3 1/2 years is struggling with health issues that have seriously impacted our quality of life. My now adult kids are doing ok but I am unable to be there for them financially and my oldest is moving to Australia for a year in 2 weeks. I just keep getting up and putting one foot in front of the other. It's a small thing but I just got the mail after my fourth move in 5 years and got mail for my dead wife....again. Really??? "Congratulations on your new home!!" Really...???
Just venting here. I've always been the one to help my family and not having the resources to do that now is incredibly demoralizing.
2017 I'm ready for a paradigm shift.
I'm good now.
Sometimes it still sucks.

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Comment by Soaring Spirits on December 31, 2016 at 11:36am

Venting is good for the soul and this is a safe space to do it ... cuz we understand completely. And you are absolutely right, "sometimes it still sucks".  Here's hoping 2017 brings you many blessings and relief from these challenges.

Comment by Callie2 on December 31, 2016 at 11:07am
Sorry things are not going smoothly for you right now. We're constantly being faced with new challenges in life. Might be worth the $ to find a good CPA and get that straightened out or possibly a lawyer, depending upon what it involves. It does seem unfair that it's only the middle class that loses sleep over this stuff!

I hope your wife's health improves soon. Yes, sometimes it's about putting one foot in front of the other or "treading water" as I often think of it. What's most important is to never give up hope. My best to you and hope 2017 is a better year!
Comment by Widow_erDad on December 31, 2016 at 8:22am
Thank you Patience. Today's a new day. I just have to remind myself of all the good in my life. Talking with my oldest friend recently about life and how our views of success have evolved. We both agreed that having our health, a good job, and our kids being healthy independent employed adults is what really counts. It's not money or things that make us happy. I have 5 grandchildren now with our combined family of 6 kids. Some days the weight of the other stuff feels crushing.
Here's to 2017.
Comment by Patience on December 31, 2016 at 5:43am
WidowerDad- sending you good thoughts and wishes for you and your wife and family for the New Year!
So sorry for all that you are going through....

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