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i got some great news recently, and I can't be happy about it.

As some of you might know, I've been having one bad thing after another happen recently. Roof leaking, dishwasher breaking, me breaking stuff in the house, never ending home repairs, plus an ongoing health problem. So I was told recently, that my nephew and his girlfriend are expecting a child, this will add Great Uncle to my current title of Crazy Uncle. I am beyond thrilled that this is happening, except for one thing, my nephew's girlfriend and the new addition, will never know Arlene. Nobody on that side of the family even talks about her. This bothers me, ALOT! Arlene would have loved my nephew's girlfriend and the would have been thrilled to no end that she would be a great aunt. Something wonderful is happening, and I can't even be completly happy about it. This is always going to bother me. 

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Comment by Cindy on May 31, 2019 at 3:34pm

Don, you're going to be a wonderful crazy great uncle.  I understand, though, that you can't be completely happy about it.  It's very sad that the family does not speak of Arlene and that must really hurt.  I think as ppl who have lost someone dear to us that maybe being totally happy about good news is no longer possible.  I have a happy upcoming event too (granddaughter's wedding) but I feel pretty flat about it, and I think it will be a hard day.  Maybe this is something that has also been stolen from us too.....pure and simple joy about life's milestones.  I don't know.   Maybe that changes, hope so.  In the meantime, I would just say keep talking about Arlene, don't ever stop.

Comment by chef (John) on May 19, 2019 at 9:45am

Better a great uncle than one who's just "so-so", Don.

Comment by Julie on April 26, 2019 at 1:40pm

My son and daughter in law told me they were expecting a month or two after my husband died. I was happy for them but so sad as well, that my husband 

would not experience his first grand son, seems so unfair. I cried when I was by myself. I did not want to take away the joy from their good news.i know when

the baby is born, I will be crying for many different emotions. My faith will carry me through. All we can do is enjoy every moment of our loves as we work 

through this grieving process. It takes a village to carry us on. Stay safe and well.Julie

Comment by laurajay on April 25, 2019 at 9:40pm

I'm  so old fashioned  I hope  the baby's  parents  marry  and have a long , happy marriage.  Nice  to hear your good news.

Comment by Dee1960 on April 25, 2019 at 4:26pm

Don, glad you had some great news, and congrats on becoming a Great Uncle! -- I do know, when it rains it pours --- had it happen to me, lost my husband, then the cat died, the dog died, my best friend died, all within 6 months and seemed like everything was falling apart (including house & appliances)  and you begin to wonder if you've been "cursed" --  anyway, know you are not alone in that... Also --- Do know you truly are not alone, Arlene will be there with you in spirit and she is thrilled even though you can't see her -- look for her signs, ask her for signs. I do believe there is an afterlife, and our loved ones are never truly gone and are aware and watching us from "the other side". So be happy with this great news. I'm sure that's what Arlene would want.  Hang in there. All my best, D.

Comment by Patience on April 25, 2019 at 4:18pm

So sorry Don. I know the feeling. My daughter is expecting too, and Wayne would have been such a wonderful Grandfather. I have to add that one of my best friends lost her Dad before her twin boys were born. When one of the twins was between the ages of 4- 5 he used “see” and talk to his late Grandpa. It was absolutely unexplainable and wonderful. I’m a believer in signs, and I know that not everyone is. But, I’m hoping that something  similar might happen for my future grandson. .. 

Sending (((((Hugs)))) to you. 

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