I hate Fridays

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Comment by bj628(Bonnie) on July 21, 2012 at 9:01pm

I don't like weekends much either.. Like you when he got home on Friday we spent the entire weekend togetther. Oh sometimes he was out on the tractor, but I would walk out with a bottle of cold water for him. The little things we did together. ((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))

Comment by whatnow-T on July 21, 2012 at 8:07pm

It is amazing to see what everyone is writting.  I lost Ernie at 1:43 on a Monday.  I knew something was wrong that day, you know how you get a gut feeling.  I had went to lay down after helping my daughter move her room around and felt sad.  I got the call an hour later. It's been 55 days and he was 55 years old. I cant imagine life with out him nor do I want to.  He was my everything and I miss him more and more each day, people tell me I am strong, I sure the heck don't feel it when I cry myself to sleep.  What other choice do you have but to get up everyday and do what needs to be done.  I open the closet and look at his clothes and close it, I can't go there yet.  

Comment by Joyce on July 21, 2012 at 7:33pm

Oh honeyspuddin, I know what you mean, I hate fridays and weekends, we too always did things together.  My month date is the 11th also, I'm at 9 months, things are not too much better yet.  Sending hugs to all of us here!

Comment by Suzanne on July 21, 2012 at 1:54pm

Hi Puddin, my Dennis died on a Friday as well...Feb 27, 2009 at 5:45 am. Like you, I counted EVERY friday for the longest time. My wake up time for work coincided with the time he passed. So every morning at 5:45am I awoke to realize he was gone again. It almost felt like something out the the movie "Ground Hog Day". Weekends sucked for me for a very long time as well. I would literally sit and just stare for hours during those days. I'm at almost 41 months and I can tell you that it will get better. Gradually, open yourself up to new ideas and you'll find yourself enjoying new experiences that will hopefully fill the lonely void during the weekends. Hugs to you.

Comment by suebru (Sue) on July 21, 2012 at 10:06am

I echo Leeanne's remark below....your thoughts echo mine as well. So glad to have found this site....to find others who are going through such similar situations. Honeyspudin, you ARE brave and those spiders better watch out! Hugs to all, Sue :-)

Comment by honeys(puddin) on July 21, 2012 at 8:03am

A friend came over and we laughed and cried and talked till midnight.  Then it was Saturday.  My 10th weekend w/out him.  I've got a super filled day...if I want it to be.  I could also just sit here and do nothing.  There's no rhyme or reason to my spurts of motivation (I use that word very loosely here).  Thank you Ali.  Sunflower I can't imagine being a 1 1/2 yrs. out.  I don't want to imagine.  srm541 I'm still thick in my past memories with him, can't see past those.  Leeanne you can put anything into words here.  That's why I feel at home here.  oh my gosh I just got up to get some more coffee and had to kill the biggest freakin spider!!!!!  Yesterday I had to kill a big roach!  Honey where are you??!!!!  I hate bugs so much, the sight of them makes me scream and cry much less having to be the bug killer now.  ugh;/  My granddaughter asked me yesterday if I was scared killing the roach and I told her yes.  She told me I was being very brave.  That made me cry.  I feel a lot of things but brave is absolutely not one one them.  Great...now the tear fountain is overflowing.  Happy Saturday morning to me;/

Comment by Leeanne on July 21, 2012 at 3:14am

Hi Honeyspudding,
I lost my loving husband Joe that very same day only closer to midnight. Fridays are the worst and I haven't even been back to work yet. Your thoughts echo mine.
I am so sorry for your loss,my heart breaks for all of us here.
Thanks for putting into words what I have not said out loud but thought about 10 times now.
Hugs

Comment by srm541 on July 21, 2012 at 1:01am

Hi Honeyspudding, They are so wise, I hate Fridays too, always had a date night with our best friends, that moved twice with us. Oh how I miss those days. I have created some new memories and friends now, and you will to, when you are ready. Know that we are here for each other.

Comment by Sunflower37 on July 20, 2012 at 11:11pm

Hi Honeyspudding, I so understand...the weekend was our time as well...it was always just us. Fridays were sooo hard for me especially after I returned to work. Everyone returning to their husbands, families and I was going back to an empty apartment...just so hard. For a couple weeks after my Kevin passed, I slept at my sisters, then after that they stayed with me at my new apt (yes, I moved out of our apt. within a couple of weeks, I couldn't be there without him, it helped me).

I'm at 1 yr 2 1/2 mths and some Fridays are still hard for me, just because...well Saturdays and Sundays aren't much better.

Thank you for sharing...hugs to you. MLA~WB

Comment by AEDforever (Ali) on July 20, 2012 at 10:33pm

yes, i understand.  fridays and weekends are hard.  i've kicked and screamed and hated it.  and now, i've had to find ways to spend my fridays and weekends.  it's hard.  give yourself time. time to miss, time to be sad, to be angry. all of those feelings are valid. you will never 'get over" it..but you can learn to be kind to yourself, to find your way, to find a way to live.  peace be with you.