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Three months ago today my husband took the wings that he had definitely earned and joined his loved ones in heaven. On this day I got my own special guardian angel. It was the hardest day of my life and the past 3 months haven’t been easy. I am slowly learning to cope with things and look at the brighter side of things. When things go wrong, and it seems to happen to me a lot lately, I have to laugh it off. It’s either laugh or cry, and laughing feels much better!
Here are a few things that I have learned in the past 3 months, with the sunny side up!
*Tree root can cost up to $400, but more importantly I learned that my sisters can stay very calm in a crisis. They also can clean up a flooded bathroom very quickly, twice!
*The windmill to deter the moles didn’t need to be fixed, it will just break again and it didn’t really deter the moles anyways. Seeing my Brother-in-law being handy was a first and priceless!
*When the sprinkler company comes out to blow out the sprinklers and the controller has no power, plug in the things that they unplugged because one of them is for cable and you will end up on the phone with the cable company for an hour to figure that one out! Duh!
*Family members that weren’t in your life much before, won’t be there after, no mater what they say. You will however, hear from them when they need or want something from you (money)! It’s OK to say “No” now.
*If you call a repairman to fix the dishwasher and he does it in 2 minutes, quickly find something else for him to fix to save on another service charge (and so you don’t look so stupid.)
*Banks can make mistakes! Reporting me as deceased may have delayed the refinance on the house but, nobody can steal my identity now, right?!
* Always take people up on offers to do something outside of the house no matter how crazy it sounds! Ice skating was actually fun!
*Find a good support group. If you can’t find one in your area (and many of us can’t) the next best thing (and maybe better) is this site! These people know what you are going thru and are probably the best to go to for advice or just someone to talk to when nobody else “gets it.”
*I learned how to use the snow blower today! Dennis would be so proud! I also learned that you should go to the bathroom before you bundle up and head out into the cold!
Being a widow does have its advantages.
*Phone solicitors don’t know what to say to, “Yes you can talk to him, when they get phones in heaven” and often just hang up.
*My husband’s family and friends are always going to be there for me. My husband will always be with me. He will always do things to make me laugh, even if it is making things break and then work the next day. He always was a joker!
*You can start blaming things on having “widow brain”, I use to blame it on being blonde, but now I have something else that sounds legit.
*You get to join the group that nobody wants to join, the best group out there, this group. Thanks Everyone for the support over the past months! You saved my life!