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I read recently that remarriage after widowhood is sometimes referred to as "Chapter 2".   I can identify with that . This is my chapter 2 of love but in the span of my life I think I am on my "Chapter 4".  Let me explain a little bit ...  I was born to a unwed mom of 15 . Raised by my grandmother without much money but really felt loved .   During my childhood I dealt with several emotional and physical issues brought on by my family environment.  I left home at 18, moved across the country and started a new , stable life.  When I was 21 my late husband entered my life . I fell in love married and lived mostly a wonderful 27 years with him .  Completely loved and in love raising our boys and sharing a ministry job together.

During that 27 years , in 2005 I was diagnosed with Non Hodgkin s Lymphoma , went through 6 months of treatment- today I am cancer free! This life is hard. I am a faith believer.'All I know is this life is hard. I don't know why things happen but I believe that God allows struggles to come to prepare us for the bigger things to ahead.I wish this wasn't my story in some aspects but I also am very grateful that I have a story to tell! On July 19, 2010 my husband took his life. A loving ,kind husband and father and mentor to many. I don't know why , I don't have the answers but I do belive that God will use his life and my life for good. I don't know how many chapters are left to write in my story but I wake up each day thankful for this chapter and hopefully the many more to come. I love my life right now . It is really good :) I have imagined this life but didn't know if it was possible to find ever. The pain has eased ( not gone but manageable) The good memories far outweigh the pain of such a tragic loss and struggles of sickness and family issues. 

I encourage you today to not give up on  your story . This is your life - Even though we don't get to control what happens to us - we can control our feelings and reactions to our circumstances . Hang in there ... Breathe ... Better days and love are ahead:)


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Comment by Mariposa on July 1, 2014 at 10:14am

Inspiring story. Thanks for sharing.

Comment by Dianne in Nevada on June 27, 2014 at 7:02am

Ah Lisa ... for all you have endured your wonderful, kind, compassionate heart continues to shine so brightly.  I'm sorry that our circumstances caused us to meet here in Widville in 2011, but so very grateful for the friendship that resulted from that.  Can't wait to see you again soon in San Diego. 

Comment by Enzo on June 26, 2014 at 11:00pm
Thank you for sharing Lisa, I really appreciated your story and my heart is with you.
I really needed to read this.
Thank You

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