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My husband has been gone for 20 months now. I'm constantly asked why I'm still wearing my wedding rings.......In my heart we are still married. The set I currently wear was an anniversary gift from him just before he passed. Is there a "right" time to take them off??

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Comment by Emeraldisle72 on January 19, 2014 at 6:16am
Thank U everyone for your support. I just can't believe how insensitive people can be. We spent 20 beaitufl years together. I cherish every single second of those years. I'm still trying to wrap my head around him being gone. Its been almost 2 years now. I don't know if I'll ever get used to this new life
Comment by Babs on January 19, 2014 at 4:51am
I share your feeling of 'still being married'. A friend commented about me still wearing my rings. I am learning that the expectations of others hold no relevance for me during this grief journey. To your own self be true. Your heart will tell you what and when you should or shouldn't do something. I am learning to trust my own thoughts and be good to myself. Wishing you comfort and peaceful days.
Comment by Blue Snow on January 14, 2014 at 3:08pm

Your husband died but your love for him still lives on and is still very real. Wear your rings for as long as it feels right to YOU. If you feel too fragile to face more questions from well meaning friends who don't understand, you could consider switching the rings to your other hand.

Comment by Emeraldisle72 on January 14, 2014 at 5:08am
Thank U Laurajay. My heart doesn't want to accept what it knows........He's never coming home again. I've heard that the 2nd year is one of the hardest. I'm still as raw as I was the day he passed. I just don't know what is right for me. Family tries to understand, but they have no clue
Comment by laurajay on January 13, 2014 at 8:45pm

dear Emeraldisle...You had one great love and he is gone.  You have one loving, grieving heart that is still beating.  I suggest you listen to your heart because you will know when the time is right.  Listen not to well meaning friends and family they do not understand.  When you are asked next time   tell them you are waiting for your heart to let you know when the time is right and you have no idea when that will be.  There is no right or wrong time-just your time.

As a note- of course neither rings nor papers can tell us what our hearts and minds know as truth...     be easy on both and give yourself time to listen.     laurajay

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