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Widowed Village connects peers with each other for friendship and sharing. The moderators, administrators, and others involved in running this site are not professionals.

Please don't interpret anything you read here as medical, legal, or otherwise expert advice. Don't disregard any expert's advice or take any action as a result of what you read here.

We're friends, not doctors, financial or legal professionals, and we're not "grief experts." But we are here, and we've been "there."

In a very round about way I found Widowed Village.

One side of my heart says- finally some people who get what you've been through and continue to go through.

The other side says- is it helpful to you to hang out with people who have the same problems you do?

I have no answer.

Except that the gracious way I have been instantly embraced by this community is refreshing.  I don't have to explain anything. They truly get it.

If say "my husband" they know I mean my late husband.  I hate that phrase, but in some situations it's helpful to distinguish my marital status from people who have been divorced.  I would still be married if he hadn't died.  I guess I still feel married and to explain that to people who have not had to say that last good-bye is futile. He will never be out of my heart.

If I mention to others who have loss their spouse how I don't like to celebrate holidays without him they understand.  I want to be involved in celebrating but it's not the same anymore. 

When I read posts about friendships changing, wondering whether or not to date, or when you stopped wearing your wedding rings I don't feel so alone.  The voices here are real, honest and full of wisdom about things I have not yet discovered on this journey.

But when I read posts by people who have just recently lost the love of their life, I silently weep.  I know how you feel all too well and there is nothing to do but offer a virtual hug, condolences, and prayers for the next day to be better than today.

You are strangers like me, in a strange place no one can explain before you get here, but I already feel like we are friends.

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Comment by bis4betsy on April 7, 2015 at 7:18pm

Thank you only1sue and heart1980 for your kind thoughts.  I am finding a sense of peace being connected online to others.  

Comment by only1sue on April 6, 2015 at 1:10pm

Yes, I felt the same way when I first came here, still grieving myself and feeling for all those others, strangers but on the same journey.  I have found much solace here so I hope you do too.

Comment by heart1980 on April 5, 2015 at 9:56pm

So sorry for your loss.Take care Heart 1980

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