The last few days I've been trying to write a letter to Patrick's donor family. There's so much I want to say, but so much I can't say due to rules and all that.
Thank You just doesn't seem like enough. Even though in the end we lost him, a transplant was his only fighting chance at a new beginning, but also living to watch his kids grow up.
I have talked to many donor families and some have told me they would rather remain clueless to whether their loved ones organs lived on or not. Others have told me that they did choose to meet the family of a recipient that passed away after transplant and were very thankful they did. That for them knowing that these people were still so grateful for the donor's decision made it worth everything.
During the 12 days that Patrick was awake after transplant, we talked a lot about what we wanted to say to the family. I hope that one day I do get to meet this family and thank them in person. Also to share with them who Patrick was.
These people have and always will have a special place in my heart. The minute we got the call telling us they had a heart for Patrick they became part of our family.