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Thankfulness
This has been a rough week for me. Monday was a holiday (in Canada where I live)which gave me far to much time to think. Then on Tuesday it would have been Ron and my 30th Anniversary. Then Wednesday was 4 months since Ron died. Today, Thursday was a mass for my Ron, my daughter and I attended.
Today I would like to talk about something I don’t always speak of often. I believe because I get into such a dark place because of the loss of my husband that I forget that there are wonderful people who are here to help me. There have been a lot of people who went out of their way to help me. Some are family and some are not. My daughter has been absolutely wonderful. My boys have been helpful. My brother and his family have been there for me since the minute they returned early from his holiday to be with us. My brother-in-law came to be with my son after his friend killed himself. My son’s girlfriend was fabulous. My oldest sister has been wonderful. My youngest sister was great up until this weekend when she came to see me but actually just used our house as a hotel. The people who work for me have done everything they can to help me. I know I pay them but they went beyond the normal. The welder in our town did my work before anyone else. People at the John Deere Dealership where my husband did not deal with help me far more than the people at the dealership he did deal with. Yesterday the mechanic welded a part from my combine and charged me nothing. People at our church have been great. People on this site have also helped me immeasurably, because no one knows what one is going through except people who are going through a similar journey. I know it is hard to be thankful when your heart is broken and you feel mortally wounded but I know I need to take a moment and thank the people who have made my existence bearable during such a difficult time. Thank you
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Comment by hendrixx2 on August 15, 2012 at 2:57am -
hi Laurie,
Great sentiments, we often forget, being blinded by the storm we are in, that there are those around us, who continue to make the journey that much easier...Thank you for posting this.
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Comment by Vettie on August 12, 2012 at 9:50pm -
It will amaze you, what some people do. My mother, the kids and I went out to eat this evening at a restaurant. I paid my bill then started out to the van with the kids. My mother was paying her bill and the owner said"she is very busy"...my mother proceeded to tell her about my husband dying and how busy I am. The women said I want to do something...she reached into her till and gave my mother $20 to give to me. How generous. And how shocking. My mother gave it to me when she go out to the car. I couldn't believe it. I am going to call her tomorrow to thank her.
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Comment by kimkirt (KK) on August 10, 2012 at 9:32am -
Even in our darkest clouds, we sometimes awake and find the silver linings. HUGS!
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Comment by Diane on August 10, 2012 at 8:30am -
I so agree Suz, that we forget to be grateful for all the goodness that does come our way when we are so sad and may not notice it. What you write Laurie, is an awesome reminder and I am grateful for you and your blog. Thank you!
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Comment by Suz on August 9, 2012 at 4:37pm -
Dear Laurie,
Thank you so much for all for writing this. It is so beautiful and so touching. I can tell it came right from your heart.It really helped me get in touch with how much people have done and still do to help Kat and me. Sometimes I, too, get focused on my sadness and loneliness and forget all the love that comes my way. I think gratitude is a really important factor in healing...but I forget!
Big hugs and thank,
Suz
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Comment by bj628(Bonnie) on August 9, 2012 at 3:20pm -
Great post laurie, We do sometimes get into a dark place, and feel so lonely..
((((((((((((hugs))))))))))) Bonnie
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