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Well, I finally got one of my husbands' death certificates when I received his ashes...

I called the Social Security office to only run into a brick wall. I'm not eligible to receive any benefits of any kind. According to them, we weren't married long enough. I don't see how the length of our marriage mattered, but apparently, it does. The way the state sees it, I'm not worth helping out. Idk. I'm still searching for work, but nothing has caught on yet. I was so devastated this morning. If a miracle doesn't occur soon, I will be homeless before the end of the month. I have no other alternatives. I really wish that John would have taken me with me. I even started a GoFund Me account to see if any of my friends would help. It's not helping. I know that times are hard for everyone, I just thought that maybe God would've had a ram in the bush for me. Guess not. I'm still pushing through this Widow's Fog. I hurt so bad during most of the day, I just go numb. If I'm in your prayers, keep praying for me please. I don't think my prayers are getting through.

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Comment by Branbran36 on December 24, 2016 at 10:42am

Thank you Lizbeth4

Comment by lizbeth4 on December 11, 2016 at 12:09pm

I am thinking of you today!   I hope that you find a job soon.   Sorry that you are having to face this financial crisis while grieving for your Husband.   ((Prayers)))

Comment by Branbran36 on December 5, 2016 at 5:13pm

Thank you, Sherry

Comment by lowrsr (Sherry) on December 5, 2016 at 4:05pm

It took me over 3 weeks to get the death certificate. Then it took over two months to get the letters of testamentary from the court so I can use the death certificate to actually do anything. Social security also said I wasn't married long enough to get benefits, but at least his daughter gets survivor benefits. That's something, since I am her guardian now.

You are running into a lot of walls! That is the worst. I am wishing you good luck in this horrible, awful time. Hugs and love to you. 

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