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The Final Chapter to the Courtroom Bullsh*t

DATES, Numbers, TIME

In 2.5 months my husband will have been gone for 2 years.  

22.5 months ago, he was struck by a drunk driver, t-boned in his newly boughten truck on his way to work on a sunday morning.  3 weeks after he lost his life, I gave birth to our son.  Our very first and only baby. (we wanted 4)

3 months before he was killed, we were married on a wonderfully warm June 18th.

2 months before our wonderful wedding day, we bought our first house together.

10 days ago, his killer was sentenced to 4 years in prison, with a 5 year driving ban. (what is wrong with this?) The driver was a young male, out for a night of fun and drinking, (irresponsible fun mind you), and although he has no criminal background, he has been known to drive drunk, and so has members of his family.  His brother was charged with a DUI a month before my husband was killed.  His father was killed in a car accident when he was a young boy, and he was the drunk driver.  Why was the judge so soft?

I bet it has something to do with the overcrowded jailing facilities... 

the real kick in the arse... usually an offender will serve only 1 sixth of the sentence they are given. He has the chance to get out of prison in 8 months.  His life will go on.


He killed an innocent man, and gets a very short time in prison.  He will get to drive again.  He will get to continue living.  It's crazy to me, and almost makes no sense.  I just hope he does learn from his actions, and that my husband's death wasn't just a result of a brainless loser's poor decision making.

The day after the sentencing (july 6th) I gave my husbands ashes to my mother in law, in hopes that it'll help her move forward.  Maybe the urn will comfort her in some way... and now I have an empty spot on the shelf to match the empty spot in my heart.

I think about Craig every day. still love him. and miss him.

I hope his killer changes his ways, and DOES not do something this stupid and reckless again.  It would be the worst feeling to find out he was counting down the days until he gets released to just continue down the same path that lead him here in the first place...epecially knowing that Canada's justice system is way too lenient on repeat offenders.

so there's the update.

the final chapter to the ongoing courthouse saga. 

peace and healing continues...

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Comment by judy on August 14, 2013 at 5:58am


There sometimes is no justice for all this - just hoping down the road - morally it will get to him - he is a loser.  My heart is feeling for you and wishing you peace and sending you love.  xox

Comment by smit09 on August 14, 2013 at 5:11am

I was and sometimes still am very bitter.  BUT, I shouldn't have called him a loser. 

Thank you for your comments, they strengthen me.

Comment by gcortez55 on July 27, 2013 at 1:04am heart is with you.

Comment by hendrixx2 on July 21, 2013 at 10:12am

Hi Smit09,

At times it appears that there is just no justice, ''just us''...wishing you continued Peace and Healing, try to remember...

“The Arc of the Moral Universe Is Long, but It Bends Toward Justice”

― Martin Luther King Jr.
Comment by katjames on July 17, 2013 at 1:04pm

That is heart wrenching Stacy... what you've been through.  Soo sorry for your loss.  Yes, healing continues... I hope peace and comfort will be with you.

Comment by Mac on July 15, 2013 at 9:45pm

Sorry that you have had to deal with all of this Stacy. Sending good thoughts your way. 

Comment by Dianne in Nevada on July 15, 2013 at 8:46pm

Ah Stacy, I'm so sorry for the light sentence and how that feels. But I'm grateful you don't have to return to that courtroom and for the peace and healing that can come now. Holding you close ♥ 

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