You never know what you are going to wake up to on any given day. That was especially true today as I got an early morning phone call from a friend telling me his brother and sister-in-law lost their baby during delivery this morning. My heart instantly broke for them all, however it wasn't until he stopped by the office did it sink in how much pain he is in.
I can't imagine living through that specific situation, but what I can relate to is the pain of loss, the confusion of death and the flood of unexplained emotions that accompanies it all. The strength of his emotions hit me like a ton of bricks. Being sensitive to others in that way, I could feel what he was experiencing and it was overwhelming.
During the morning time, I was struggling with processing my own feelings about Frank and some of the guilt that I carry for not having been (in my mind) supportive enough for him. I made a vow to myself after he died that I would not let another person in my life suffer "alone" or with less care, comfort and love than they deserve. Today, God gave me the opportunity to exercise that promise for a friend who has also shown me support and words of encouragement as I go through some personal issues in this season of my life.
I would have given a million dollars for someone just to wrap their arms around me when Frank died and the days following. I didn't need words all the time. Sometimes, just a silent embrace or a squeeze of my hand is all I needed to feel the warmth and support of another. I want to be able to give that to others who are in need of the same. I consider it a gift that I have recognized this need in myself, but an even greater gift to know that I can freely pass that along to anyone at anytime.
My heart hurts for others so much sometimes that I honestly feel like it will burst. That means I have more than my share of compassion and that I have an obligation to care for my brothers and sisters around me. We are human. Life has tragedies. Life has joys. We hurt. We laugh. We sing. We cry. There is not a single human who can not relate to all of these. So, why don't we start doing something about it?
For me, I am actively on the lookout for how I can provide even the smallest consolation and comfort to anyone else. I want to make the weight of a day easier to carry. If two share the load of a burden, both can make it through much easier than carrying a load all on your own.
Whose weight can you help carry?