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I decided right after my wife died on 6 August 2012 that I was going to try to do the best I could to put on a good front, mainly for my family! I wanted them to feel that I was holding up well and that I could continue without my wife. They all knew how close we were and I didn't want them thinking that I couldn't handle life after such a hard blow. I wanted my children and grandchildren in particular to feel that grandpa was okay. I tried to smile as much as I could and to be cheerful. I believe I fooled them, because I got many compliments about how well I was doing. Many said they were surprised to see that I was taking it so well. I guess I'm a better actor than I thought I was.
As the minutes, hours, days, weeks, and months have gone by, however, a funny thing has happened. At first, the smiles were fake, but as time has passed, the smiles have become more and more genuine and real. It's now gotten to the point that smiling has become natural and no longer forced. So, what I started out doing to help others has turned out to be something very positive that has helped me. We all grieve and we, here on WV, face this together. We do "get it" and we understand what's it like. If there is one thing we know, it's that it's not easy. I hope that each and everyone of you has a very nice weekend and if you haven't done so, try to put on a smile, for others, of course. Just maybe, the smiles will help you too like it did me. Warm hugs and a smile from my heart to your's! :) Stan
My wife Linda, smiling!