Learning to Be Me Without You is a love story about a diagnosis, one last adventure, a crisis of faith that erupts on the threshold of death, and a transformed life. With stunning authenticity, Paula chronicles her journey into widowhood, the club no one wants to join, and confronts her two greatest fears: that she could not survive the grief of her husband’s death; and that God would not be enough.

When doctors confirm that Paula’s husband of forty years has an incurable lung disease, fear and grief overwhelm her, and she begins to journal. This memoir is a vulnerable and sometimes humorous account—in real time—of a terminal illness, a cross-country move to the coast, her husband’s untimely death, and an unscripted road to healing during a set-apart season by the sea. It’s a story of God’s faithfulness in the crucible of grief and what can happen when we say yes to His invitation to Follow me . . . I want to recover your life.

This book offers gentle guidance and insight toward personal growth through grief and can also be used as a support group, widows’ ministry, or church group resource.

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