When grieving the loss of someone deeply loved, it’s like you’re a vase that has been thrown to the ground, shattered into 1000 pieces and put back together again, only to constantly teeter on the edge of a shelf. Those that don’t understand the depth of the pain will say or do something intended to help because the cracks in the vase make them uncomfortable. But, more often than not, those words and actions only make the pain worse for the griever — it’s like outsiders push the vase off the shelf and it shatters again.