October 3rd 2023 would have been our 42nd wedding anniversary. I was dreading the day so much. The day before I was a basket case. The day of the anniversary I was ok. Then the day after was bad.
I think anticipating the day seemed to use all my anxiety and worry up.
I started a tradition I will continue. I bought my husband an anniversary card. I wrote in it and sealed it with his name and date on the outside. I am going to keep them in a keepsake box. It was very healing for me. A way to remember. Every year that passes I will do this.
I haven't been to the graveside yet. Not up to it. The gravestone is up. My middle son went to see it. He told me about it. I am just not able to go yet. I have to drive to it and I want to go alone so I have to wait till I am feeling well enough to go. Now the weather is getting cooler and snow is around the corner. It will be in the spring.
CynBon says
Posted on October 26, 2023 0
You have given me inspiration. Today, October 26, is my anniversary. I should probably think of some good tradition to start as well they way you did. I don’t want this day to become meaningless.
CynBon says
Posted on October 21, 2023 0
My anniversary is coming this week. A friend called and asked for us to meet for lunch. I’m glad I won’t be spending that day alone, but I do know it will be difficult.
PattiF says
Posted on October 20, 2023 0
I love the tradition you started. I’m learning that having a tradition or ritual or intention can help. I had nothing planned for our anniversary in May, a few months after my husband passed. I was angry at the world in the days leading up to the anniversary, and it was a horrible day. His birthday was a few weeks later and I decided to make a meal he made for us often. It made a difference. It was a sad day with grief and tears, but I also had an opportunity to remember and enjoy something about our time together, instead of being overwhelmed completely by the loss.
Thank you for sharing and I am sorry for your loss.
Cindy W. says
Posted on October 14, 2023 0
I just had my first anniversary without my husband October 8th. I kept myself busy and did OK. I was expecting a bad day afterward, but didn’t have one. Of course every day I miss him, but there wasn’t a particularly bad day surrounding this.